LESSONS IN RODOLOGY: keys to well-being
The destructive power of resentment against the father.
For a girl, the father is the most important person in life. This is her first image of a man, on the basis of which she will choose her husband in the future. Therefore, resentment against the father can already affect life. adult girl and make adjustments to it.
Before talking about possible consequences this resentment, you need to take one important action, without which further conversation will be simply meaningless. Namely, admit at least to yourself that your father ever hurt you and you have not forgiven him for it.
In fact, many women sincerely believe that they have nothing to be offended by dad for, and in the course of work it turns out that the father practically did not pay attention to them in childhood, was not interested in their problems, did not participate in life. And only by applying psychological practices, returning them to the past, the former pain is resurrected, and the realization of resentment against the father comes.
Therefore, if your first thought when reading this article was: “This is not about me,” then I strongly recommend that you take your time and think carefully. Your future destiny depends on it.
And now let's see what consequences an insult to a father can lead to if she remains unforgiven:
1. Resentment for inattention
If dad paid little time, attention, love and care to his daughter, she feels unloved from childhood. Starting from a young age, the girl will strive to compensate for this love with the male attention that will be available to her. As a rule, this is early love, passion, passion. Subconsciously, she longs to prove to herself that she has something to love for, that she deserves it, although the girl herself does not believe in it. And who knows what such a search for the desired love will lead to ...
The psychological trauma caused by the behavior of the pope will make the girl afraid of loneliness and she will be ready to be with anyone, if only not alone.
Is it worth talking about peace, tranquility and female happiness? The only thing that can lead her out of the vicious circle is the forgiveness of her father, sincere acceptance of him for who he was or is.
2. Resentment of cruelty
If dad was cruel to his daughter or her mother, then the girl’s soul accumulates anger at her father from childhood, which naturally develops into a mortal insult.
What is the risk? The fact that in adulthood a girl, wanting to find a man for herself - the complete opposite of her dad, will still attract cruel men into her life.
Why? Because in her subconscious, an image of the first man in her life was formed - her father. The way he was. And consciously, the girl experiences fear at the thought that her husband will also be a cruel person.
With this fear, the influence of the subconscious image only intensifies, and the Universe throws the "prototype" of her father into her husbands. This will continue until the girl forgives him.
Such is the destructive power of resentment against the father.
3. Resentment at the restriction of freedom
Or overprotective. That is, this point is the exact opposite of the first, which we have already considered. In this case, the girl longs to get rid of this guardianship as soon as possible and finally breathe freely.
What does this usually lead to? Moreover, she cannot find a mate for a very long time, because subconsciously she does not want this. She strives for independence and freedom.
Does this promise her female happiness? Unlikely. Therefore, the only way to improve your life is to release resentment against your father with the help of forgiveness.
All roads lead to forgiveness. Therefore, it is up to you to decide whether to live on with resentment in your heart or still forgive.
RODOLOGY LESSON: Forgive your parents
The past can both take energy from us and give us strength. If you have unforgiven grievances or guilt about hurting someone, then you are probably having problems in the present. The people who symbolize the past for us are our parents. If you are offended by them for something and cannot forgive, then you close the energy support of the family and the universe. This may affect your children as well. For example, if grievances against men are repeated in your family from generation to generation, then the influx of male energy stops and, as a result, success in many activities is impossible, women do not have a personal life, diseases appear that are localized in the right side of the body.
Once a woman came for a consultation, for whom everything was fine astrologically and karmically. But at the same time, her personal life did not go well, the men left one after another. It turned out when she was 13 years old, her father wanted to leave the family. Later, the parents reconciled, and the girl forgot about it. But she carried this insult through her whole life, without realizing it herself. If a woman has unresolved problems in her relationship with her father, she is unlikely to have her own harmonious family. If a man has aggression towards his father, he is unlikely to have a successful career.
In addition, there may be problems with government agencies, which are also associated with the male principle. The first thing to do is to mentally go back in time and remember the grievances that significant adults inflicted on you. You thought your grandfather would leave you a lot of money, but he didn't.
Or another picture from the past: you are a little girl who has not seen her dad for a whole day and managed to get bored. And he, entering the house, meets her with a stern shout, they say, "leave me alone." Imagine this scene calmly, try not to get emotionally involved in it. Mentally "walk" through your body, there should be no tension anywhere. Say to yourself: yes, I have such a father and such a mother, I cannot change this. If in the present relatives do not act as you would like, avoid condemnation. The mother-in-law does not want to spend time with her grandchildren. This is her choice, and you make yours - live without resentment and condemnation.
RODOLOGY LESSON: Analyze the history of your family.
Analyze the problems that arise in your family. For example, such a family story: all the women of the clan were abandoned by their husbands. So the groom left the 20-year-old beautiful daughter right before the wedding, and she already Wedding Dress ready, and the guests are invited.
This means that claims against a man go by race and the girl needs to “work them out” for all generations. On the one hand, it is very difficult, on the other hand, if she does this, then the support from the family will be colossal. When a woman resolves an issue with her parents, her personal life changes in 2-3 months.
RHODOLOGY LESSON: Ask your parents for blessings
It has been noticed many times: a wonderful couple, people love each other. But if one of the parents is against marriage and does not bless it, then the future for such a couple is very problematic. Try to get as many blessings as possible from your mother and father. You can even ask your parents to say out loud, "I bless you to be happy."
In ancient civilizations, it was no coincidence that the family was put in the first place, because it is from it that you can get support in any situation. Someone can say that a person is an immortal soul, and parents are people who just gave us a body. Children are souls that come to our family, but they have their own life. There is some truth in these statements. If a person has a broken connection with his parents and family, then he cannot have a harmonious family, a successful career, or good health. Our lives are controlled by subconscious programs that we acquired in childhood.
The character of the child and his attitude to the world is laid in the first 2-3 years. Energy determines almost everything in this world, even trees and stones fall under male or female energy. And man is ALSO the result of the interaction of yin and yang, a combination of masculine and feminine. It is important that this combination is harmonious. If a woman does not respect her husband, says that “he ruined her whole life”, takes on male functions, concentrates on her career, she begins to have an imbalance first at the level of the mind, then the body.
If a man becomes feminine, he wants to be looked after, he does not want to take responsibility for his woman and children, his masculinity closes. Understanding how things are with the energy of you and your loved ones is simple: take a look at how a person has a personal life. Does a man take care of his children and wife? Does a woman strive to realize herself in the family? Or is she only interested in career and money?
If you notice that you often get sick, here, too, there were problems with the parents. The mother for us is the personification of the feminine divine principle, the father is the masculine. The left side of the body is associated with female energy, the right side with male energy. Many Eastern doctors in the diagnosis pay attention to which side of the body a person hurts. So determining what is the cause of the disease. Think about how men and women were treated in your family? Were there problems in the family that were repeated from generation to generation? If so, then it is important for you to break the vicious circle in order to live harmoniously and happily.
EXAMPLES OF GENERAL PROGRAMS
Striving to be an effective and loving parent.
If the grandfather and father of a person were the head of their families, strict, but not always loving, fair and devoted, their grandson and son are doomed to be strict and demanding in their family. Intelligent Life will not rest until this imperfection is eliminated.
The purpose of our course is to understand: where we came from, where we are going and how to reach our potential. Feel the logic of the Universe as it manifests itself in the life of each of you. There is only logic in the Universe, there is nothing illogical.
RODOLOGY LESSON: Try to earn the affection and respect of your husband's parents
The husband's mother for a woman karmically becomes a second mother, she must be accepted and understood. If there is tension in your relationship, then something needs to change inside you, especially if you live with your mother-in-law. It is very important that there is harmonious energy in the family, because the health of children and the whole family, success in your endeavors depends on this. If harmony between wife and mother-in-law cannot be achieved, the husband must find separate housing for the family. After all, he took responsibility for his wife. What to do if your husband's mother refuses to make contact? Try resentment release techniques. Do not judge her, tell yourself: “My mother-in-law does not love me, which means that I somehow attracted such a situation.” Learn to earn love and respect. If you want your mother-in-law to bless you, give her gifts, serve her, offer her help. Ask what you can do for her, for her son. When a person serves you, you involuntarily have a desire to bless him. Dedicate a year of your life to her, if necessary, but earn her blessing. The main thing is to keep harmony within yourself. If we are harmonious, we can always agree with people. What if you tried, but it didn't work? Do not judge your mother-in-law and do not be offended by her. You did everything you could. Perhaps it will work later.
We are all part of the great universe. Each of us is a micro-Universe, and we build our lives according to the same laws as the Universe.
In the Universe there is a strict certainty, an order that obeys its own laws. And each of us is subject to these strict rules, even if we are not always aware of it.
Having realized the laws by which our life is built, we become the real masters of our destiny. Only then can we renounce sacrifice, failure, suffering of the Soul and disease of the body.
I call you to become more conscious in your life and enter a new stage of your life - mature, wise, prosperous.
EXAMPLES OF GENERAL PROGRAMS
The inability of a person to come to terms with the authority that was or is in his life. This pattern of disagreement with authority tends to be present in 3-4 generations. Until a person learns to recognize authority himself, he will not have authority in his family, among his children. If the parents died and he did not have time to explain himself to them, he should mentally give them the appropriate position in order to gain respect himself.
The man had problems with his father. And he had the same problems with his own son. The solution for him was to make peace with his father, and when he expressed his respect to him, his son, who did not know anything about the conversation between his father and grandfather, began to recognize the authority of his father himself.
We live in the Universe, which has an electromagnetic nature, and there is not a single feeling, thought that would not be transmitted from generation to generation. Each generation solves the problem of the undesirable situation of its ancestors.
THE PRACTICE OF RODOLOGY: Getting Rid of Grudges
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Put a photo of your parents in front of you and bow to the floor. Think about how you bow to them as representatives of the divine principle. Do this several times every day. At the moment of bow, when we lower our head below our heart, pride and resentment go away. If you bow sincerely, from the heart, without expecting something in return, then amazing things can happen. Suddenly, my mother calls and says: “I'm sorry, I was unfair to you as a child.” No matter how far your parents are from you, they feel everything on an energy level.
Reader question I:
Hi, I just found out a few days ago that my father passed away. Died a month ago, but new family I forbade everyone to talk about it.
My father left us when I was 4 years old, he left us very badly, it's scary to remember. We didn’t talk for a long time, he became a complete stranger to me. But after 20 years of absence, he showed up, it seems like they even began to communicate on holidays. He helped me a lot with money, he gave me half the cost of the apartment, which remained after the death of my grandmother. But again we stopped communicating with him, I didn’t invite him to the wedding, although I probably should have, I went to live in another country, and we got lost again.
Now it is no more, and inside it is as if an old wound has been opened. I am very sorry that I didn’t invite me to the wedding, that they stopped communicating, but the childish resentment bleeds, does not give rest, I can’t calm down that they didn’t even tell me about the death, but they said that I was already a stranger. I say, I forgave, but resentment in my head.
How to forgive my father, how to forget childhood grievances, I sinned that I stopped communicating and did not invite me to the wedding?
Archpriest Andrey Efanov answers:
Good afternoon! Dear Anna, my condolences! What can I say ... if there was no communication between you and your father and there was no contact with his family, it is not surprising that you were and are a stranger to them. God be their judge that they forbade everyone to tell you about it and what you found out a month later. But a month is still pretty fast, and you can do for your father what he needs most right now - pray for him.
40 days are coming from the day of death (it is believed that the day of death itself is the first day, the day tomorrow is the second, and so on). So get ready to know how
Inside the text at the hyperlink above there are all the explanations about prayer for the departed. There I answered a woman whose husband had died, but the same will be true about the father. If there are difficulties with a trip to the cemetery, then this moment can be omitted or postponed for another time.
As for grievances, the topic is very difficult, and I recommend that you try to talk with the priest about it personally: the priest will ask about something, you will answer, get a reaction - such a conversation will not work in writing. Regarding such conversations, we even have a text “ ”
I think that now you can try to accept that father's decision to leave your mother, to accept it as his will, conscious, free. After all, a person is free to manage his own destiny, make decisions and bear responsibility for them. You have now decided to deal with your feelings and improve relations with your father and with the memory of him, even posthumously, and this is a very right decision, thank God! And your dad made such a decision, probably dictated by a whole set of circumstances ... I can imagine how it was insulting, painful for you, what it is like to lose your father at once, to know that he is alive, but not with you ... But somehow separate inside yourself your feelings and what your father chose like that. This is not about the fact that you are wrong, that something is wrong with you - this is about the then choice of an adult man.
Then you grew up - and the time has come for you to choose and build new relationships for you and your father. There were attempts to establish contact - financial assistance to you, probably some talk, but due to circumstances and failure of one of you or both of you, these attempts did not lead to a stable relationship between father and daughter.
Of course, it is very good and right when both parents are present at the wedding, but what can I say if you did not communicate with your father? Probably, that’s why the invitation didn’t work out ... And now you can only pray for dad and try to understand what emotions are inside you, live them, say yes, this hurts you, it’s insulting, it’s wrong (although it is dictated by circumstances and the will of another person), but now you want to live like this, like this, and like this, treat your experience and the memory of your father in this way. You need to accept your experience, soberly evaluate, accept and live on. And what you need to do about your father is, as I already said, to pray, preferably, regularly and until the end of your days. This is the choice that, unlike in the past, is within your control and which you can make. And, of course, to repent in confession for those of your actions and choices that you are now aware of as wrong, erroneous and that torment your heart.
Your situation is special, since your father is no longer alive, but I will still give links to materials that may be useful to you:
God bless you, dear Anna! My condolences!
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As I have repeatedly written both on the Solar Hands website and in the book How to Make a Man Get off the Couch. Secrets of Happy Women, your relationship with men is now also strongly influenced by your relationship with your father. And it doesn't matter if you grew up in a complete family or not.
It is the attitude towards the father that lays down the further attitude towards the men in your life.
At a young age, the girl personifies the father with all men. As an adult, no matter how you feel about your father, sooner or later you will begin to treat all men the same way. Unless you specifically work through and forgive insults and discontent.
How you feel about your father paints a picture of your relationship with the men in your life. Let's look at a small example. A woman who grew up in a complete family, at first glance quite prosperous, cannot build relationships with men. Men pay attention to her, only she constantly “runs away” from them. As soon as someone shows a little more pressure, she immediately builds a “protective” wall, begins to distance herself and behave with arrogance and sometimes even rudeness.
During work, we find out that she was very contemptuous and still treats her father like that, although he left this world long ago. He believes that he was weak and weak-willed, that at the moment when she needed help and support, he betrayed her and abandoned her, and many more grievances and various claims over trifles.
We also find out that she feels the same feelings for all men, regardless of their social status, appearance, age, etc.
Do you understand? Relations with the father, whether he is alive or gone to another world, leave their mark on relationships with men.
If you do not resolve your internal conflict with your father, do not forgive him and do not let go of everything that has accumulated over the years of your life, firstly, it will be difficult for you to become happy yourself, and secondly, it is almost impossible to create happy relationship with a man.
Once a friend told me: “I will never forgive my father for anything. After all, he left us, then he had a new 
family and he forgot about me. And let it be worse for him that I hate him ". And only with time did she realize that it was worse from unforgiven insults to only one single person - herself. It is not surprising that until she forgave her father, her relationship with men not only did not develop, but they were not foreseen at all.
Over time, she realized that her mother was also involved in the departure of her father. And that her father is not so bad. And after she began to forgive her father, with whom she had not spoken for several years, she met him by chance in a cafe. 1.5 years after she took up the practice of forgiveness, my
a friend got married safely, gave birth to a son, and now she not only has an excellent relationship with her husband, but also with her father.
It will be necessary to forgive every offense until one fine moment you can’t even remember why, in fact, you were offended by your father then? And even if you can remember, you will only be left with a slight bewilderment "And it's all? And why did you get offended?"
After forgiveness of one offense, take on the second, third, fifth, tenth, and so on.
Farewell and forgive. Forgive until your soul sings. Forgive until you feel that you are tired of living with old, unnecessary experiences and emotions for a hundred years, and how much you want a new life, new events, new relationships and happiness in your personal life!
Only after you have forgiven your father and other men are you ready to form a new lifestyle in your subconscious mind.
By the way, if you do not have a very good relationship with your mother, then forgive her. And, of course, do not forget about the most important person in your life - about yourself!
I would like to draw your attention to this, although I have already written about this, but many do not attach due importance to this aspect. After you begin to forgive, be sure to make notes in which you will record all the changes and miracles. And these changes and miracles will surely begin to happen in your life almost every day. As soon as you begin to get rid of negativity, anger and disappointment, in their place will come the joy of life, love, success and miracles that you did not even suspect.
Miracles will begin to happen to you at almost every step. You will be surprised, and where was all this before? Where were these open, kind and considerate people? Where were all these amazing coincidences, interesting and promising proposals before, and where was your happiness in your personal life before? After all, now your life will be filled with all these wonderful events every day!
Sincerely, Anastasia Guy.
Is it possible to avoid the provocations of the modern metropolis? How to forgive the pain caused by the closest people? How can women be women and men be men? Hieroschemamonk Valentin (Gurevich), confessor of the Donskoy Monastery, answers questions from readers.
How to forgive a father who left his mother with three young children in her arms? We are already adults, but the resentment remains.
Previously, when the souls of our forefathers were in unceasing communion with God, man was complete. He was a partaker Divine love.
After the fall, the Lord departed from man. St. Theophan the Recluse speaks of this: “Man has become empty of God.” The human soul was left alone with its biological nature, and animal instincts began to dominate in it. We bite - we bite.
The Lord commanded us: “Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). However, this commanded love is not ours, impossible for a biological being, obeying the instincts of self-defense, self-preservation - this is God's love. which the Lord revealed on the Cross.
When we love the Lord crucified for us more than our old soul, so that we can reject it, purify our heart so that the Lord can return to it, then we will become partakers of Divine love and treat people like God. And until we have God in our hearts, we cannot get rid of resentment. Only by reaching the main goal of the Christian life - union with God, when the Lord will be present in our hearts with His grace, we will really be able to forgive those whom it seems to us humanly impossible to forgive.
And you need to understand why your father did this. We are not talking about specific reasons: we do not know in this case what kind of relationship he had with his mother, what caused him to leave, whom he met, etc. We must understand that outside the experience of communion with God, we are all corrupted, human nature is damaged by sin, which gives power over souls to demons and demons. Man is a slave of passions, he is defenseless before Satan and his servants, if he is not under the cover of God's grace. We all have our own addictions. For someone it is alcohol, for another it is prodigal passion, for the third it is lust for power. It is important to understand how enslaved we all are, that we are brothers in misfortune.
Therefore, the Lord said: “Judge not, lest you be judged” (Matt. 7:1). We should not judge anyone, be offended by anyone.
Especially when it comes to parents. Here is a clear violation of the commandment: “honor thy father and thy mother, that it may be well with you, and that your days on earth may be long” (Ex. 20:12). Whatever the parents may be, this God-established commandment must be fulfilled. We must pray for our parents, ask the Lord to forgive their sins.
Elder Siluan of Athos, according to Father Sophrony Sakharov, taught: it is well known that the Divine nature of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of God, can only be known by the Holy Spirit. When does the Holy Spirit work in us? Only when there is love in our heart. The main criterion here is love for enemies.
The elder wrote: “If someone offends you, or dishonors, or takes away what is yours, or persecutes the Church, pray to the Lord, saying: “Lord, we are all Your creation, have pity on Your servants and turn them to repentance.” And then you will tangibly carry grace in your soul.
This prayer is an effective way to overcome resentment, condemnation, enmity. Remember her, she is very strong.
- Where is it better to save yourself - in the city or in the countryside? Should I move closer to the ground?
You can save yourself everywhere. How can you die anywhere?
We are in the place where the Lord has led us. Of course, life in nature seems to us more beneficial: "we will live a quiet and silent life in all piety and purity."
And in megacities, the network of addictions into which Satan draws a person through the society of sinners is especially strong now. At human soul there are forces - desirable and irritable. The task of Satan is to turn these forces to the destruction of man. Wrong perverted orientation of the first leads to the frenzy of fornication, the second - to malice, anger, cruelty. We are now at a moment in human history when the provocations of the metropolis, pushing a person into the orbit of sin, are especially strong. On the one hand, voluptuousness is poured into the air, it lures from advertising posters, dominates in videos. On the other hand, mutual bitterness and hostility intensified in society. The enemy uses the slightest pretext to stir up discord. The very vocabulary of communication has become almost entirely non-normative.
The Savior spoke of last times: "because of the increase of iniquity, the love of many will grow cold" (Matt. 24:12); and “When the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?” (Luke 18:8). “Babylon the great, the mother of harlots and abominations of the earth” (Rev. 17:5), which has become “the dwelling place of demons and a haven for every unclean spirit ... every unclean and disgusting bird,” is gaining strength today. And the call of the Apocalypse “come out of her, My people, so that you do not participate in her sins and not be exposed to her plagues,” can be perceived by many as a recommendation to move from the city to the village.
But one must grow up to participation in the people of God. And for this you have to go through the crucible of many temptations and temptations. And apparently, this is exactly what the extraordinary temptations that the Providence of God allows in the era of the civilization of the metropolis-Babylon serve just for this ...
- What if the married husband leaves the family?
It is necessary to understand the reasons for what is happening. Why are families constantly breaking up? If a woman did not change her destiny to be a mother and assistant to her husband, to stay at home, raise children, give her husband headship in the family, everything would be different.
Our God-fighting revolution, as the vanguard of the European, anti-Christian mentality, tried to realize one of its cherished goals: women's emancipation.
The builders of the "brave new world" have rejected the Cornerstone - the Almighty Omniscient Mind of God. And they put their intellectual mind in His place. As this mind seemed noble and correct, so they decided to arrange everything.
So they took pity on the woman - “You share! Russian share female! Hardly harder to find." And for the sake of liberating women from the family yoke and in the name of the triumph of free love, it was decided to liquidate the institution of the "bourgeois family." Equality of the sexes was proclaimed, and a woman, on an equal footing with a man, was charged with socially useful labor instead of the much more important mission of bearing and raising children.
Development material world It has always been the prerogative of a man, he makes stools, computers, airplanes ... And a woman raised a man - this is a much more responsible and serious mission.
From holy parents holy children were born. Let us remember Saints Joachim and Anna, righteous Zechariah and Elizabeth. These couples did not have children for a long time. They constantly prayed to God for the permission of infertility, and in this unceasing communion with God they sanctified themselves. So the offspring born of them was holy.
Holy Mother of God and the holy Forerunner of the Lord John - the purest of all people, they are closest to the Throne of God, as evidenced by "theology in colors" - the deesis rite; that is, they have the greatest boldness in prayer before the Lord.
The Virgin Mary grew in the Holy of Holies of the Temple of Jerusalem, and John the Baptist grew in the wilderness. Thus, from the very beginning of their lives, they were protected from negative impact depraved human society, wholly directed by their pure holy souls to God.
And Christians should imitate these holy examples, of course, to the best of their ability.
A proud emancipated woman does not allow a man to be a man. She no longer wants to be the keeper of the hearth, raise children, stay at home. Under Soviet rule, it was customary, for example, to travel without a “second half” to resorts, visit theaters, museums, and in general “develop culturally”. And of course, she needs to assert herself in the profession. At work, she is surrounded by interesting colleagues of the opposite sex. And it completely destroys the family. She, of course, does not even think of saving herself by childbearing, and the marriage bed becomes a bed of fornication.
And since fornication becomes the basis of an intimate union, such a union ceases to exist along with the cooling of passion in one of the parties. And more often than not, the husband eventually leaves to fornicate with a younger woman. We must understand that we ourselves provoke all these disorders. For we build the building of our life on the sand of our lusts, and not on the foundation of the commandments of Holy Scripture.
So, we must understand our guilt that we ourselves have destroyed our lives, and repent. We must understand that the Lord allows us these sorrows by which we are saved.
The main thing is that in the midst of these sorrows, bitterness should not arise in the heart. Hate is killing us for eternal life; it is a poison that poisons our heart.
The Lord said: “And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up (on the Cross), so that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:14-15). The Jews in the desert were attacked by snakes and stung them. Then Moses made a bronze image of a serpent and held it high so that everyone could see it. And according to his prayer, when the Israelites looked at this image, they were not harmed by snake venom.
In the same way, we Christians, looking at the Crucifixion and at the same time fulfilling the commandment “love the Lord thy God with all your heart, with all your soul”, inwardly, in prayer, unite with the Crucified One, and He settles in our heart. In fulfillment of His prayer at the Last Supper for His followers: “As You, Father, are in Me, and I in You, so they also may be one in Us” (John 17:21). Thus, Love Itself instills in our heart, and we, looking at the Crucifixion, get rid of the snake poison of hatred.
A person overshadowed by the love of Christ prays for his enemies. The Lord is the focus of our life. We must unite with Him with all our feelings, thoughts, desires. The holy fathers, for example, St. Tikhon of Zadonsk, advise treating the Lord as a Beloved: when we love someone, all our aspirations are in him, we fall asleep with his name on our lips, we dream about him, and, waking up, we also remember only about him. So the Christian loves his Lord. And the Lord dwells in his heart.
And then, looking at the Crucifixion, having God in our hearts, we will act in life as He acted on the Cross. That is, we will treat people in God's way. According to the Lord’s word that the first commandment is “love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, with all your strength.” And the second, similar to it - "and your neighbor as yourself." Thus, looking at the Crucifixion, we feel in our hearts the Love of Christ, the Love of the Cross for everyone, even for the crucifiers.
