Yes, yes, and men are far from angels! Here is a rating of the most harmful Zodiacs of men. Find yourself if you are a man. And girls, by the way, are also useful to know what to expect.
Aries
If you happened to meet on your life path Aries, you can run to the pharmacy in advance for antidepressants. This representative of the sheep family, with his stubbornness and selfishness, manifested with childish spontaneity, can bring you to the grave in no time. Even if he knows that he is wrong, he will still argue, just out of principle. He always has his own opinion on any subject, even one in which Aries is poorly versed. Sharp outbursts of aggression and bouts of bad mood are the decoration of this sign. True, it departs as quickly as it flares up.
Taurus
Taurus believes that he can do whatever he wants, and if so, why bother? He is always pleased with himself. Even in the case when there is nothing to be proud of, in general. Taurus considers his exorbitant stubbornness to be the firmness of the character of a real man, he takes stinginess for reasonable frugality, and a tendency to pessimism for a realistic perception of the world.
Twins
No sign of the Zodiac has such a gift to turn everything upside down, like Gemini. You won’t get bored with them, but already in the second week of intensive communication you will feel like a sprinter among the stayers, hopelessly lagging behind the rest and tortured to death. If you can handle the Gemini and their mind-blowing tendency to change (given that you are not a Gemini yourself), then you should erect a monument. They hang out here and there, they love to powder their brains and scoff. The future with them is more than unreliable, but the present is funny. Do not expect fidelity from the Gemini, it is worth turning away - they are already flirting with might and main with your girlfriend.
Crayfish
This bore and whiner in every girl is looking for the continuation of her mother, and if she finds her ideal, she will certainly try to marry. Cancer - an active lover of the family hearth and comfort - will bring his wife to the grave ahead of time with his eternal claims about how to properly wash dishes, feed his beloved cat and cook an omelet. Marriage with Cancer is ruined youth.
a lion
Fixated on his own person, Leo does not notice anyone around except himself. Well, maybe even those who admire him. He is arrogant and considers himself too generous to remember insults and promises. The royal person loves to spend money, lead an idle life and surround himself beautiful girls. Insanely jealous, quick-tempered and touchy. He himself cannot stand it if he is jealous, because he cannot even admit the thought that someone can consider him his property. It should always be in your first place, and if you suddenly reschedule your date for another day because of the need to visit a sick aunt, you may be mortally offended. What the hell, auntie?
Virgo
This is a terrible pedant. He (it would be more correct to say “she”) will plague you with trifles and notations. Virgo will grumble that there is a lot of cholesterol in the oil, and fried food is very harmful to the stomach. He is lazy to the point of disgrace, but considers himself hardworking, as he sometimes sways to do some little things. He is tense with emotions, he is very wary of love.
Scales
Scales are suspicious, secretive and petty. They are irritable and can vent their anger at the first thing that comes to hand if things do not go the way they would like. They come up with various non-existent problems for themselves, and then solve them for a long time. They have many friends, but really trust almost no one.
Scorpion
A nasty, corrosive and vindictive scorpion gets annoyed all the time if something is not done the way he thinks is right. Constant nit-picking and a gloomy look, capable of almost driving waist-deep into the ground with its weight, will drive anyone crazy. And when this insect starts to be jealous, it won’t seem enough to you. He does not count money, but he remembers very well how many times they forgot to rejoice at his gift.
Sagittarius
He doesn't lie. But only because his essence cannot stand lies. He does not lie even when it is inappropriate to tell the truth. If he catches you in a lie - expect trouble. Sagittarius is madly jealous, but he does not miss a single skirt. Even his inherent sense of humor is not able to compensate for his shortcomings.
Capricorn
Capricorn - stubborn for all two hundred and absolutely not amenable to persuasion. Even if he agrees with you, then either your opinions coincide by chance, or he simply does not want to “throw pearls in front of pigs.” In the latter case, be sure - in the depths of his soul he does not doubt his innocence. Capricorn is still a bore, he can hardly endure noisy fun parties and in general can be lost to society if educational work is not done with him. However, to convince, as was said earlier, is almost unrealistic, therefore it is better to put pressure on his interest and bring him to some idea very carefully so that Capricorn decides that this is his own thought. Capricorn is ambitious, believes that he knows life, and therefore he can lecture you for hours on how to live, and especially how to spend money. So it's best to keep the little joys of your shopping to yourself.
Aquarius
Aquarius loves to dream and plan something grandiose, but his energy and patience are rarely enough to even start. He will promise you a lot of everything - and at the moment of the promise, Aquarius himself believes that he will fulfill his plan - but you do not believe his sweet words. In serious matters, it is better not to rely on Aquarius, and even more so, you should not dream in order to place responsibility for something on his courageous shoulders, rely primarily on yourself.
Fish
Do you need a normal guy, confident and firmly on the ground, and not hovering somewhere in the clouds? Then you've come to the wrong place. Fish live in their own worlds, according to their own laws and, as a result, they are absolutely not adapted to real life. Pisces are children at heart, they are indecisive, unusually sensitive, and they need to be constantly taken care of, otherwise they may disappear due to their lack of independence.
It's a strange story. By and large, we all dream "not to drink, not to smoke, and always love me". But I think some of us can recall an exemplary dialogue that takes place in a biography:
- I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t swear, I healthy lifestyle life,” the man says proudly.
Goodbye, we have nothing more to talk about.
And the point here is not at all that the man’s phrase in itself does not inspire confidence, it is alarming. If we omit self-hypnosis about a healthy lifestyle, it becomes clear that there is something attractive in men who know how to drink beautifully. Just let's immediately mark the boundaries - we are not talking about those who consume alcoholic beverages without measure.
How many times have we looked at a man sitting in a bar with a glass of whiskey and a cigar? It is unlikely that his friend with a glass was as popular. cabbage juice, biting this drink of the Gods with a carrot. And languid movie characters in hats (and without hats too) with a cigarette in their mouths or with a glass of brandy (I immediately recall the images embodied Johnny Depp,Mickey Rourcome and Jack Nicholson) - let the scoundrels and villains, but still shrouded in an attractive veil ... And how can one not lose one's will?!
"Bad" guy Johnny Depp has always attracted the attention of ladies. Frame from the film "From Hell"
And how it was sometimes pleasant for us to keep company with our chosen one and drink a few cocktails together during a vacation on some exotic coast? Remember those crazy nights when he jumped in the summer rain with a bottle of champagne, climbed onto the benches and shouted words of love to you. Or - it was just after two bottles of African shiraz for two - you waltzed together along empty lanes at minus 20, not noticing that it was insanely cold and, in fact, it was deep winter outside. And when he came to you at 5 in the morning from a drunken party, without money, but with a huge bouquet of flowers and practically fell into your arms with apologies? Haven't there been similar stories?
In all this there is the ability to receive pleasure, which so attracts women in a man. If a man loves and wants to have fun, this, at times, is insanely attractive. His relaxation, confidence in the future (would he drink on Thursday if he wasn't sure of himself?!), carelessness in his movements and aesthetics in the choice of an alcoholic drink. Well, isn't it erotic when a man understands whiskey and studies the bar list for a long time not in order to choose cheaper, but in order to choose! And then, with obvious pleasure, he tries the chosen drink, savoring it and enjoying it.
Isn't it luxurious when your joint morning starts at three in the afternoon and you go to a restaurant for "breakfast". And at this hour it is quite difficult to do without champagne. And then again to do crazy things and laugh until colic in the stomach.
You can continue indefinitely - such moments are the answer to the question of why we like drinking men.
But if we dispel the eroticism of tobacco smoke and the fumes of morning alcohol, then we can find more weighty arguments in defense of why we are greedy for men with bad habits.
Firstly If a man knows how to enjoy life, then he can drag you into a whirlpool of pleasures. But, most importantly, you understand that you delight him, also being a source of pleasure, beauty and joy. It may be fleeting, but it's still fair.
Secondly if a man understands wines, whiskey, champagne, or even has a collection of something at home, then this indicates some financial solvency. Indeed, for such a hobby, funds are needed, otherwise how will he be able to try all the variety of varieties different years spill to opt for something in particular?
Thirdly Men are also sometimes shy. And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s just that sometimes “for courage” they need to take on their chest much more than we do. And only after “five to fifty” they may lose their fear of telling you “something important” or taking a step towards you. Sometimes even just call and make an appointment!
Fourth, after all the same "seven to thirty" for some representatives of the stronger sex, fantasy begins to work perfectly. You will definitely not get bored with such a gentleman. Stop the watering machine to drive it home, buy all the roses in the tent, sing a song for you from the stage in the karaoke club, changing the text “for you”, offer to go on a trip “right now” and immediately go for tickets, quite real to him.
Fifth, which is already there, we are also not sinless. And when you want to relax and drink a glass of wine, we are not very interested in seeing how the companion of this evening stoically drinks green tea and looks askance at you.
At sixth, strong drinks often help to break down the wall of misunderstanding and bring two strangers. I once recommended to friends: “to avoid an unsuccessful and boring date, always carry a bottle of port with you.” Of course, it was a joke, but in every joke, as you know, there is truth. What if you can not talk to your companion? Or are you yourself so tense with excitement that all your facial muscles have cramped? Correctly. The only choice is to drink together.
Seventh physiology also plays a role. Most men in a lightly drunk state in bed can work wonders, while the process itself is noticeably prolonged. A certain female egoism is already playing here, since in this situation you have much more chances to reach the final than he has.
Eighth, by the behavior of a drunk man, you can learn a lot about his character. If after drinking he becomes aggressive, irritable, makes scandals, then it’s better not to even continue communication: one day he won’t need alcohol to show aggression. And if he turns into a teddy and affectionate bear, then, most likely, in life he is gentle and kind.
But it is worth remembering very important point: the pleasure of alcohol quite often ends - as it is not difficult to guess - alcoholism, both yours and men's. Therefore, it is not worth abusing and provoking a man to drink. Although what I am teaching you here, you yourself know everything ...
Ecology of life. Men in family life There is one problem that is not customary to talk about. Many women complain about...
There is one problem in family life that is not customary to talk about. Many women complain that a man has become less masculine over the years. That he is not interested in anything, that he drinks and lies on the couch. Women even forget that once they chose him and fell in love with him. For something. And for what - you don’t even remember. Because this “something” suddenly disappeared somewhere ... Or maybe not all of a sudden?
Does it need to be tamed?
When we meet a man, when we are at the moment of the beginning of a relationship, we are very attracted to his masculine strength, masculine energy. We are proud if he rides a motorcycle fearlessly. We are inspired by his victories in fisticuffs. We enthusiastically tell our friends about how he goes to races in another city, to competitions, takes first place. And even if there are no such obvious manifestations of strength, we are proud of others.
We like it when the man caring for us firmly defines his position - you are not going there, period. A slight rebellion may even arise inside, but from such a blow with a fist on the table, everything calms down inside. Protected. He is strong. He is a real man.
We often expect this in family life - that he will take responsibility, bang his fist, make a decision himself, calm the agitated mind. We dream of a strong shoulder, forgetting that in this case we need to give up a lot in our behavior.
A real man is in a sense very close to nature. He is just as indestructible, unbridled, wild. And dangerous. It is dangerous to disturb such a volcano once again, heat it up, provoke it, cut it, suppress it...
When a man marries, his world changes dramatically. I know a lot of men who have been completely changed by marriage.
One of my acquaintances, at the behest of his wife - out of love for her - broke off relations with all his friends. There were only a couple of “acceptable” options left - with which you could only drink beer in the country on weekends. At the same moment, his passion - hiking, mountaineering, mountains - disappeared from his life. It was too dangerous for the father of the family. Therefore, all equipment was distributed to friends and acquaintances.
Ultimatums were set harshly: “Either I, or that”, then there were arguments that he needed to grow up, that he should think about the family. And out of love for his wife, he agreed. He did not want to leave her as a widow, did not want to see her tears and worries. He loved her - and made a choice. Difficult choice.
He became a homely, caring father. At the same time, deeply unhappy inside. It was noticeable to many. He tried to realize his male part in raising his son - to temper him, to play sports with him. But this was forbidden by the wife. He is too small.
A few years later, she herself went to another. To a crazy stuntman who drove a motorcycle through the city at night. She talked about the passion that had disappeared, about how much he had changed, that he didn’t care or be interested in anything.
But who made him like this? Who forbade him to be a man in this family? Who blackmailed him from everything that helped him to be a man?
Now he has recovered - and again became the same as before. He still conquers peaks, descends on a snowboard where no human has gone before. He is full of energy, his eyes glow again. Women like him again. But now for him the family is something terrible. Something that can again take away his strength and masculinity.
That is what often happens. A woman after marriage tries to domesticate a man. For your convenience. In order not to worry where he is and how. To avoid being a widow. And also to make him less attracted to other women. The more tame it is, the less interesting it is to others.
The men agree to this. Because they did not see other examples - many of them were raised only by their mothers. Others grew up with a similarly domesticated dad stripped of his powers. They don't understand the price they pay for it and just call it "settle down". And also because they love us and want to see us happy.
But the soul remembers and knows everything. And yearns for former strength. A man, like a lion locked in a cage, will never become a house cat. He can become just a humiliated and trained lion. Have you ever seen such eyes of a lion in a zoo or circus? The same is happening in men's hearts. Hearts that are stripped of their power.
Isn't it a coincidence that in middle age almost every man tries to throw off this burden and go all out? Buy a race car, leave your wife, do something extreme? And if this is not possible, then at least hit computer games and become a hero there...
In Europe, most often grandfathers sit behind the wheel of Ferrari-type racing cars. And they also press the gas pedal with great pleasure. Remembering that they are still men. They are still strong and dangerous.
It turns out that we want to marry Superman, who conquered us with deeds and courage. And it’s more convenient for us to live - I emphasize this word “more convenient” - with a domestic rokhl who does something boring and safe, washes the dishes, the floor - and is of no interest to anyone. Even to ourselves. You have to pay for convenience with respect and your own happiness ...
Both need male power
No matter how women resist, they secretly dream that their husband will again become the same as before. Unbridled, strong, wild, dangerous. So that when he came home suddenly, he hugged her so that he took her breath away. So that at the moment of a quarrel, when she is carrying her, he resolutely said his “no” and, again, with his fist on the table. To make his eyes burn with the fire of strength and passion.
The only difficulty is that next to such a man you need to become different. You can’t tease and provoke him, add fuel to the fire when he is angry.
I recently heard a story about how, during a family quarrel, a husband broke his wife's laptop in half. This is one of the manifestations of male power - you need to be very careful with it. A computer is better than anything else.
Imagine that you are a manufacturing chemist. You must know exactly what can be mixed with what, and what - in any case. Otherwise, it threatens with problems. You take each jar carefully and think over - and what will happen next? You have some instructions on how to deal with jars, how to store them, how to move them.
The same is true with a man. The only problem is that we do not have this instruction. And we are experimenting. One was blown up. The other was melted down. Here they were crippled. And everything would be fine if we remembered what actions lead to such results.
For example, a man does not need to be angry when he is in a bad mood. Many people know about it. And who does that? Who tries to appease the dear one first and bring him to a good disposition, and only then solve problems?
Most often, an irritated man is fueled immediately by his wife's reproaches, her resentment, and anger. And there is an explosion. His strength fluctuates depending on the man himself and how much oil the wife added to the fire. But there is always destruction and sacrifice.
Or a man inspired by something does not need to be distracted and interfered with. Finally, he sat down with pleasure to nail - move away. Because the advice “not there” and “not so” will not only piss him off, but also lead to the fact that he will not hammer a single nail again.
Are men dangerous?
Men are really dangerous. But when women try to tame and neutralize them, they put a pig on themselves. To herself. Because from a home mattress they no longer want children. For the sake of it, you do not want to cook or be beautiful. It causes rather pity and contempt. It is also impossible to respect him.
When a man has masculine strength, it is not easy for a woman. She needs to learn how to treat her husband properly so that it is safe. She needs to worry more about him. And learn to trust him completely. And also to understand that such a man is very attractive to other women. Therefore, you must always remain for him the most-most. The most beautiful, the most loving, the most tender, the most unpredictable.
It's a different choice and a different life. Stop controlling him. Stop checking his phones and stop making him always on time. Do not tell him who to communicate with and what to do. Don't judge his hobbies by their danger. Again and again to revive in him the passion for life.
Yes, let him decide to start doing triathlon. My husband is going to compete in IronMan next year. It sounds creepy to me, running, swimming and cycling all day long. It requires a lot of strength, endurance, time. He will need to train, buy equipment, participate in marathons. And I will have to come to terms with his absence, employment, physical fatigue.
But this is nonsense compared to how his eyes shine when he talks about it and does something. When he runs ten kilometers or swims a kilometer and a half. This makes him stronger - not only physically, but also mentally.
Some of the men dream of a motorcycle. My husband is one of them. And I'm preparing mentally for the fact that one day it will happen. I have to worry about him sometimes. And trust more.
I know one girl who was very afraid, but agreed to her husband buying a motorcycle. With our movement and respect on the roads, this is a very extreme purchase. But several years passed, and the husband turned from an employee into a successful businessman. He takes his wife in a car. And he still saddles his iron horse every evening. And although they have been married for more than ten years, she recently admitted that the passion has not subsided and has not disappeared. With a motorcycle, this passion has become more.
Hobbies skiing, racing, mountain climbing, sports, business trips, exploits, dangerous journeys, extreme activities, communication with other men and much more that we want to protect men from - actually give them strength. The strength to remain a man next to us. The power to take responsibility. The strength of asceticism and endurance. Real masculine power. The one we love and miss so much.
"Yes, men are indeed dangerous. But the scalpel is also dangerous. It can hurt you, or it can save your life. You don't try to make it safe by blunting it; you put it in the hand of someone who knows how to use it.
If you have ever watched horses, then you know that stallions can cause a lot of problems. They are strong, very strong, and they have their own minds. Stallions usually don't like reins and can be very aggressive - especially if mares are around. A stallion is hard to tame.
If you want to have a calmer, safer animal, there is a simple solution: it must be castrated. Merin is much more accommodating. You can literally lead him by the nose; he will do what you tell him, without expressing any protest. With him you will have only one problem: the gelding is not able to give life. He cannot do what a stallion can. Yes, a stallion is a dangerous animal, but if you want the life it can give, you have to accept that it is dangerous. There is no one without the other…”
Appreciate in men their masculine power. And help them become stronger and more courageous. There is nothing wrong with not washing dishes at home. Buy a dishwasher - or learn to love the process. Let him do the men's things that no one can do without him. Things that fill him with strength and energy.
Because after the feat, he will come to you and lay all the trophies at your feet. And he will hug you so that the bones will crunch. From enjoyment. Finally you are with your husband ... published
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet
For the sake of sports interest, a colleague cosmetologist conducted an Internet survey on the topic “Macho and cosmetics”. She recently returned from an internship in America, and now the question of why is not the same as there is preventing her from living.
The fact is that, despite TV and other advertising, which usually successfully brainwashes, our men stubbornly continue to believe that only gays and idlers from the category of show business figures, read, the same gays, use cosmetics. In the survey, the most popular reference was “to metrosexuals”, and in the meaning: “This role is abusive, and I ask you not to apply it to me!”.
In contrast to them, “metrosexuals” and “all sorts of gays” in general, real men can and should take care of the skin of their own shoes or that the car sparkles, and about such “non-male” problems as a weather-beaten, unkempt physiognomy, a real macho and think - it's a shame. And scars and wrinkles generally give the face an exceptional flavor! Just think about it!
Hence the question, why shouldn't real men use cosmetics? Where do these settings come from? Vaughn, Brad Pitt generally injects Botox into the forehead without compromising his own masculinity.
In the same America, in the order of things, when a man does not just get a face cream, but comes to the salon, do a cleaning, and after it, oh, horror! put on a mask. Manicure, pedicure, also in the order of things.
And here, I say this from experience, it’s good if 10 percent of the total number of patients are men. And, as a rule, already with serious problems, when there is simply nothing to do but surrender to the hands of a beautician. Yes, and out of those 10, 7% are guys with acne, whom their mothers brought.
On the one hand, it is sad to watch guys and men with damaged skin who are simply uncomfortable or do not think that a well-groomed appearance is not the prerogative of women alone. On the other hand, groomed men cause real irritation. Weathered faces, rough lips and "the smell of sweat." By the way, Botox is a great way to get rid of this smell radically and permanently.
So, about cosmetics. This, of course, is not about powders, lipsticks, mascaras - they are from the category of decorative products. This is really more for young ladies.
I'm talking about skin care cosmetics: cream for the face, hands, feet. In principle, everyone who shaves already uses cosmetics. The same shaving gel, cream after it. Deodorant. By the way, deodorants were also invented as a remedy for women. So there is a good prospect for men's face creams and lotions. Especially for men, so that they do not strain too much, leading companies produce products immediately in sets: cream, lotion, tonic, etc.
So, men's cosmetics. How does it differ from women's, except for the smell and design?
Now in pharmacies, the men's line is represented by almost every company: cleansing gel, moisturizing day and evening creams, anti-wrinkle serums, acne treatments, to which men, by the way, are more susceptible to women due to the characteristics of the body.
The main difference between men's creams is the lightness of the structure. This is so as not to compromise once again, because not a single real macho will agree to wait half an hour for the cream to be completely absorbed. Therefore, a natural gel-based cream is created that quickly penetrates the skin without leaving any residue. This remedy can be used in the morning and evening after cleansing. For example, good natural creams, like Uriage or.
Men's facial serum is also convenient and effective remedy. This is a light, non-greasy concentrate. active substances designed to solve various problems. First of all - to fight acne. The structure of men's skin is different from women's. It is denser and thicker, the sebaceous and sweat glands in it work more intensively. Sebum is produced in greater quantities. This is due to the peculiarities of the hormonal system. First of all male hormone testosterone, to which the sebaceous gland receptors are very sensitive. Therefore, periodic rashes or acne occur more often in men than in women. Accordingly, anti-inflammatory and antibacterial serums are in high demand. They are convenient to use, as they are sold in bottles with special dispensers. They are usually used once a day, in the evening. Can be used before or instead of cream.
In addition to anti-acne serums, all kinds of antibacterial creams are offered, I dedicated a whole post to them, you can read it if you are interested.
A separate issue is hygienic lipstick. It's nice to have in the arsenal of every real macho. Because it is terribly unpleasant when you are kissed with weathered, rough lips. By the way, this is what many girls noted in the survey.
By the way, from salon procedures, in addition to universal cleanings and peelings, I want to mention a few purely male procedures. For example, photoepilation in the area of low growing stubble. Where the neck touches the shirt collar. In this place, irritation and ingrown hairs often appear. Epilation helps to cope with this problem.
Another effective procedure is mesotherapy with antiandrogenic drugs in the area of emerging baldness. Since testosterone, or rather dihydrotestosterone formed from it, has a pathological effect on hair follicles, the introduction of antiandrogenic agents at the very beginning of the process helps to successfully solve this problem.
Finishing, I return to our survey.
80% of the women who participated in it considered that the use of cosmetics does not affect a man's masculinity in any way, unless it adds to his competitive advantages. Well, and men ... They have their own opinion on everything. 70% ask not to apply “this abusive role” to them. Retrogrades.
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Unfortunately, it is not easy to learn to recognize dangerous men - you must be able to listen to your instincts and trust them when your new acquaintance says or does something that makes you feel threatened and dangerous. Dangerous men behave in such a way that in their behavior one can notice the belief in the justification and legality of their actions. In addition to the above, keep in mind that dangerous men may not have any intention of physically harming you, instead they will harm you emotionally, sexually, and may even commit a crime against you.
Steps
Watch for risky or dangerous behaviors
- Control is a dangerous sign. If a man is trying to control you spiritually, economically or emotionally, this is a red flag. Also beware of lies that he can use to reinforce his dominant position.
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Push a man away from you if his actions or words tell you that she is dangerous. Although society has taught you to be polite and accommodating, if a man is dangerous, and you find it, you have the right to act rudely, since you need to give a decent response to his superiority over you.
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Once outside at night, take preventive measures. If you're walking through an empty parking lot or a dark street, place your keys between your fingers; squeeze them into a tight grip if you meet unknown man. If he's following you, look for open stores or any establishments where you can get help. If you plan to use protective equipment, you must be sure that it will work (in any climate, in any weather, etc.).
- As a means of protection, we recommend using a gas spray. Choose one that works powerfully, for a long time and accurately. A good spray can be incredibly traumatic for an attacker.
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Change your habits in choosing partners. If you have been involved in an unhealthy relationship in the past in which a man hurt you, try to find out what attracts you to such men and work on changing these behaviors to healthier ones.
What do psychotherapists look for?
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Look for signs of a dangerous man before getting involved in a relationship. In short, attention should be paid to the presence in the past of a man of rapidly developing relationships, to the features of his history, to whether the man had several relationships in parallel, to his mechanism for choosing a girl and to his behavior patterns.
- Resist his attempts to speed things up. Dangerous and pathological men usually start new relationships with a clear goal in mind. They want "immediate intimacy" and therefore may begin to victimize you (impose the role of a victim).
- Explore his past. Study it criminal history. Find out if he has had mental health problems and episodes of domestic violence or aggression directed at his partner.
- Ask your boyfriend about his past relationships. If he decides to talk about his previous girlfriends, listen very carefully. Men who don't like being alone create a lot of side-by-side relationships, so your boyfriend might already be in a relationship with another girl or girls!
- Pay attention to consistent, persistent patterns of behavior. Dangerous men with pathological disorders behave in the same way with all the new women they start dating.
- Look up information about your boyfriend's former partners. If he was with a girl who is also emotionally unwell, trust your intuition and back off.
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Study this type of men: emotional predators, looking for a woman to be a parent, having a hidden life, emotionally unavailable, violent, mentally ill, have problems with addictions, always sticky and obsessive. Such men have a mental pathology, and if it has not yet been diagnosed, the psychotherapist must examine them and draw the appropriate conclusions.
- Keep a close eye on such a man, especially if he is able to quickly understand your needs and satisfy them. Emotional predators are able to instantly identify your needs and vulnerabilities.
- Listen to your instinct. Have you met a man who wants you to satisfy all his needs? Such a man wants a parent and will use you to take care of himself.
- Learn the history of this man. Note issues such as criminal behavior, children or illnesses he kept secret from you, women you never heard from him about, dangerous habits, addictions or hobbies.
- Trust your instincts if you meet a man who fulfills some obligations to another woman, but swears that he is "almost" finished with her. This man is looking for a woman who has trouble keeping boundaries.
- Be especially careful if you suspect that you are facing a man of the so-called "Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde" type. His negative side comes out when he needs to re-establish his dominance. At such moments, he is able to hit, shame, cause physical harm, make you feel guilty, decide to damage your property if this forces you to return to him.
- Listen to your instincts if you find yourself in a relationship with a man suffering from some form of addiction. His addiction doesn't have to be drugs or alcohol; it could be addiction to pornography, thrills, sex, or just being in a relationship.
- Pay attention to your feelings. For example, if you feel like you've given everything to this relationship, you may be dealing with a pathological "sticky".
- If a man constantly makes you feel indebted to him, as if he is doing you a huge favor, be careful. No one should force anyone to experience such feelings for a long time.
- If the conflict has resulted in a flash of anger, be careful. This can be a serious warning, a wake-up call that tells you that you have contacted a dangerous person.
- If your family, colleagues or friends start telling you that your boyfriend is dangerous, listen to what they have to say.
- Avoiding your obligations to a man can become daunting task. It won't necessarily be dangerous, but it can get you in trouble. Make a decision when the relationship should end and then just move on.
Warnings
- If you have already been involved in a dangerous relationship and have been abused, you should know that when you decide to end this relationship, a great many dangers await you.
- If a man blows up a scandal out of a minor incident, reacts disproportionately sharper than the significance of the problem, easily loses his temper, etc., then such a man is probably mentally unstable and capable of tough behavior.
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Listen to your instincts and learn to recognize dangerous men. A dangerous man looks just like one who is not going to harm you or anyone else. The danger he poses doesn't have to include a physical threat - he can be a financial, spiritual, emotional, or sexual danger to you.
