1. Deadline was yesterday!
What a twist! Agree, no one should work hard or overtime because of the forgetfulness of a colleague or his inability to plan dates. Such behavior is not entirely tactful and not professional at all, and is also very angry.
When working in conjunction with another person, it is important to think not only about yourself, but also about a colleague-partner. It is likely that he has other tasks waiting to be done. That's just because of someone's carelessness, he will now be forced to abandon them and then finish them at the last moment.
2. I will try, but I do not promise anything
At work, everyone has certain responsibilities that it is desirable to fulfill on time. Most likely, these are regularly recurring tasks that are known in advance. And the worker either does it or he doesn't. There is no third.
Imagine the following situation: at the interview, the candidate asks the future manager about the amount of the expected salary. And this is what he answers: “Pay you forty thousand every month? Well, I'll try, but I can't promise anything." What kind of stability and confidence in the future can we talk about here.
3. I didn't touch anything, it broke by itself!
“It broke itself” is the worst way to admit guilt for something. As practice shows, something breaks itself in extremely rare cases. Most often, someone still helps the breakdown happen. To make excuses and refer to unknown destructive forces in such a situation is extremely absurd.
If you're really at fault, it's best to be honest and apologize. You can, for example, say this: “Yes, guys, I broke it. Sorry, I'll fix it now." It is advisable to do it yourself and immediately, and not sit in the corner until the last, hoping that no one will notice.
4. Didn't expect you to get it!
A colleague shared his small accomplishment and clearly expected to get a little praise in return, not a derogatory tirade. It would be much more appropriate to rejoice at the success of the employee, without trying to find some catch in the situation. You could say "Congratulations!" or “Wow, great!” or just keep silent, if it's really insulting.
5. I heard you
The impression of the phrase "I heard you" is extremely contradictory. There is nothing particularly bad in it - the interlocutor understood what he was told, and even answered. But the initiator of the conversation clearly expected to get a more lively reaction, and not just an indifferent confirmation that his opponent did not have hearing problems. One gets the feeling that the interlocutor simply wants to quickly get rid of the conversation.
6. I don't get paid for this!
A great phrase to evade the unpleasant or unnecessary extra burden that some people for some reason want to puzzle others all the time. It also says a lot about the person who says it.
Most often, this turns out to be some petty character who defiantly proves to the whole world that he is sitting at work for good reason. And he is not distracted by any nonsense that does not concern his direct duties. And in general, he appreciates his precious time, not like compassionate colleagues, everyone around for free.
7. Send a brief, we will brainstorm
Oh, those linguistic mutants. Sometimes borrowing really is indispensable, but when working communication turns into simultaneous translation, this is a reason to think. Or use a dictionary.
8. I did my best! I do not like? Find someone who will do better
There are no irreplaceable employees. Maybe in some companies it will be possible to pull off such a trick painlessly, but the chance is small. Most likely, management will heed the advice of a short-sighted employee and simply find someone better for his position.
9. I told you! I knew it! I told you!
No matter how great the temptation to say this sacramental phrase out loud, hold on. A person who complains about difficulties or failures does not at all want to hear an unjustified triumph in response. If you think about it, then being right that everything will be bad is an extremely dubious pleasure.
10. Calm down! Relax! Do not mind it!
For a person who is in trouble, this phrase and all its derivatives are like a red rag for a bull. 100% rage guaranteed.
11. It's a shame not to know!
It is not shameful not to know something, it is shameful not to want to learn anything. Even the coolest professional can not understand something. Reproach for ignorance is the last thing. It’s better to just take it and suggest it, especially if you have already asked for help.
12. I don't care how you do it
No comment. Mutual support and help each other at work? No, don't be like that.
13. If you are in my place, you will decide, but for now, keep quiet
Favorite phrase of arrogant leaders or people with a little bit of influence. Is it worth reminding that few people love the arrogant? It would be much more efficient to use power for someone's benefit, but not to harm or supposedly put them in their place.
14. Nothing personal, just business
This phrase sounds feigned and inappropriate from everyone except Al Capone. So if you are not the leader of the Chicago or some other mafia, then it is better to moderate the degree of audacity. In a situation where you need to do something beneficial for yourself, but bad for others, it is important, first of all, to remain a person, and not to throw such phrases, trying to justify your immoral behavior.
15. Your obedient servant wishes everyone a good day
The times of servants and masters are long gone, but for some reason stupid turns of speech have remained. Science has not been able to figure out why "your obedient servant", "good time of the day", "has a place to be" and other monstrous cliches are still used in speech.
What phrases of colleagues annoy you? Share in the comments.
Meanwhile, smart people have long figured out how to replace some taboo statements.
1 You were too good for him!
At first glance, one of those phrases that usually console a friend who has survived a breakup with a partner. However, in fact, this is partly an insult to her taste and evidence of her inability to understand people: “Well, you chose a guy for yourself, and how much time you spent on him!”
What is better to say:
He lost a lot.
2 You look great for your age!
Why shouldn't you say this:
Quite neutral, at first glance, the phrase turns into a condescending consolation: "Compared to other old people, you look even more or less."
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What is better to say:
Wow, you look just amazing!
3 I try, but I can't!
Why shouldn't you say this:
A phrase that is forgivable for a 10-year-old girl. adult girl begging for emotional approval for not achieving her goal is not entirely respectable. It is better to either recognize the goal as unattainable, or completely change tactics.
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What is better to say:
I try as hard as possible.
4 I have achieved everything myself!
Why shouldn't you say this:
From birth, we are surrounded by people who in one way or another influence our formation and development. We, in turn, draw conclusions and extract something from what is happening. But to discount the help of these people is ugly.
What is better to say:
Thanks to my parents and the support of loved ones, I was able to achieve this.
5 It's not fair!
Why shouldn't you say this:
Life is not fair. You have to come to terms with this. Complaining about the slightest manifestations of injustice, you become inexperienced and naive in the eyes of others. Eradicate this phrase and replace it with a more constructive one.
What is better to say:
For example, if the decision of the boss is unfair, in your opinion, you can correctly ask him: “What led to such a decision? May I know why you didn't entrust this to me?"
6 Maybe I'm going to say something stupid, but...
Why shouldn't you say this:
Remember: this phrase sets others up in advance that your opinion will not be entirely competent. Such words are the most unfortunate choice for entry.
What is better to say:
I am not completely sure about this issue, it will be interesting to know your opinion.
7 I told you!
Why shouldn't you say this:
A phrase that is always used only to point out people to their mistakes, which none of us likes. In such a situation, it is better to cheer the person up.
What is better to say:
You won't make that mistake next time.
8 Oh, I had that too!
Why shouldn't you say this:
This phrase can only be said to a friend who just took a pair of shoes to the store that did not fit her at all. However, this should not be said if she shares a personal problem with you. After all, she wants to speak out, and not listen to how it was with you.
What is better to say:
Many face this, but you will definitely cope.
9 Why are you inventing a problem out of the blue!
Why shouldn't you say this:
You cannot speak like that, if only for the reason that you are not a measure of other people's problems.
What is better to say:
Very soon this problem will not be as important for you as it is now. Everything will be alright.
10 You don't love me!
Why shouldn't you say this:
A catchphrase that can play a bad joke on you. Hearing your tearful "You don't love me!" once, the man, of course, will rush to passionately assure you of the opposite, the second time he will coolly ignore it, and the third time he will think carefully: perhaps you are right ...
What is better to say:
I miss you.
Some phrases in a conversation put you in a bad light, show stupidity, naivety and immaturity. What phrases do smart people never say? Don't make these mistakes.
Words sometimes fail us, although we speak hackneyed expressions. According to the conversation, others evaluate the interlocutor and his level of human intelligence. Watch your language.
What phrases do smart people never say?
1. "It's always been done that way." The modern world is developing very quickly and what was normal recently becomes obsolete in a month. This phrase shows a person as lazy and incapable of change.
2. "It's not fair." Everyone knows that life is unfair. But the one who says it looks naive, stupid and immature. Try to be more constructive and factual.
3. "You always..." Generalization does not allow to establish communication, but looks like criticism. Healthy conversation will not come out of this.
4. "I'll try." These words indicate that you doubt your abilities and capabilities. These are the words of extremely insecure and weak people.
5. "That might be a dumb idea/question." Such phrases undermine your authority, and people are critical of the interlocutor in advance.
6. "I can't." When people hear this, they think it is tantamount to "I won't" and "I don't want to." So you don't try and do your best, even though you could.
7. "No problem." By saying this to a person, we mean that this was a problem, but we level our help and reduce the significance. It's better to say "please".
8. "He's lazy/stupid/weird." Disparaging words about your friend or colleague show you not from the best side. Saying this, the interlocutor thinks that you can say the same about him. You will be treated worse.
9. "I hate work / business / occupation." Similar phrase makes a person a whiner, a skeptic and a pessimist. And they don't like these people.
Soviet leader Joseph Vissarionovich Stalin unexpectedly intervened in the course of the 2016 election campaign in the United States. The “culprit” of this event was the presidential candidate from the Republican Party, Ben Carson.
During a televised debate, Carson said, "Joseph Stalin said that if you want to destroy America, you need to destroy three things - our spiritual life, our patriotism and our morality."
Very quickly, viewers and netizens discovered that the presidential contender had quoted words that Stalin never actually uttered. After that, hundreds of ironic comments rained down on Carson.
The most curious thing is that the quote cited by Ben Carson is well known to the Russian audience - it, but only reversed in relation to Russia, is cited either as part of the so-called "Dulles plan", or as a statement by Zbigniew Brzezinski. Some even attribute it to Otto von Bismarck.
In fact, neither Stalin, nor Bismarck, nor Brzezinski, as well as other prominent figures from different eras, have anything to do with this phrase. The most similar statement is found in the hero of the novel by the writer Anatoly Ivanov "Eternal Call", a former Russian gendarmerie officer, and at the time of the statement - SS Standartenführer Lakhnovsky.
The incident that happened to Ben Carson is not so rare. Thanks to the Internet, the replication of loud statements and aphorisms famous people, who actually didn’t say anything like that, became massive.
The leader of the Russian revolution Vladimir Ilyich Lenin wrote about this:“The main problem with quotes on the Internet is that people immediately believe in their authenticity”.
If you were embarrassed by the historical neighborhood of Lenin and the Internet, then you can be congratulated - of course, he did not write anything like that. However, this phrase, launched by someone as a mockery of fake quotes, is now taken at face value by many citizens who are not too savvy in historical matters.
Here are a few examples of famous sayings by the powerful of this world that they never actually uttered.
1. "No person - no problem" , - Joseph Stalin
It is not known what the Soviet leader would say when he heard this saying - perhaps he would nod his head approvingly, or perhaps he would twist his finger at his temple. In any case, there is no reliable evidence that Stalin ever said such a phrase.
In fact, the phrase was introduced into circulation and attributed to Stalin by the writer Anatoly Rybakov in the novel Children of the Arbat. They say that the author heartily laughed at publicists and politicians who in their speeches cited this phrase as really Stalinist.
2. “We don’t have irreplaceable people” , - Joseph Stalin
And one more phrase attributed to the Generalissimo, but not belonging to him. In 1942, playwright Alexander Korneichuk used it in the play Front. But he is not the author either. The words actually belong to the Commissar of the French Revolutionary Convention, Joseph Le Bon, and were spoken in 1793.
Vicomte de Gieselin, arrested for political unreliability, asked to spare his life, as his education and experience could still be useful new France. To which Commissioner Le Bon replied: “There are no irreplaceable people in the Republic!” The commissioner turned out to be right - soon after the viscount he went to the guillotine himself.
3. "Stalin took Russia with a plow, and left it with an atomic bomb" , - Winston Churchill
Another famous phrase, now not Stalin, but about Stalin. Indeed, Winston Churchill regarded the Soviet leader with apprehension and respect, which was reflected even in the Fulton speech that launched the Cold War: “I deeply admire and honor the valiant Russian people and my wartime comrade Marshal Stalin.”
But Churchill did not say anything about the plow and the atomic bomb. For the first time, as a quote from Churchill, she was cited in the article “I Can’t Give Up My Principles” in March 1988 by the Stalinist Nina Andreeva.
Andreeva may have been inspired by a 1956 Encyclopædia Britannica article about Stalin. The author of the article, Sovietologist Isaac Deutscher, wrote: “The essence of Stalin’s truly historical achievements is that he accepted Russia with a plow, and leaves with nuclear reactors. He raised Russia to the level of the second industrialized country in the world.”
4. “When I hear the word “culture”, my hand reaches for a gun” , - Joseph Goebbels
The chief propagandist of the Third Reich really did not favor those manifestations of culture that did not fit into the Nazi ideology. Perhaps he would even subscribe to this statement, like Hermann Goering, who is sometimes also credited with the authorship of these words. But the truth is that neither Goering nor Goebbels said anything like that.
In fact, the phrase is taken from the Nazi playwright Hans Jost's play "Schlageter", dedicated to the German veteran of the First World War, who, after the Allied occupation of the Rhineland, continued to undermine French trains. In the play, Schlageter discusses with his friend whether it is worth spending time studying if the country is under occupation. The friend replies that it is better to fight than to learn, and that at the word "culture" he unlatches his Browning.
5. “Don’t feel sorry for the soldiers, the women still give birth!” - Marshal Georgy Zhukov
This quote is very popular among critics of Marshal Zhukov's leadership talents, as well as among fans of the version that the Red Army "thrown corpses" at the Wehrmacht.
There is only one problem - Zhukov never said it. As Alexander Suvorov, Mikhail Kutuzov and Emperor Peter the Great did not pronounce it, different time she was assigned.
It is not known for certain how and when this phrase originated. Something similar can be found in a letter from Empress Alexandra Feodorovna to Nicholas II, dated August 17, 1916: “The generals know that we still have many soldiers in Russia, and therefore do not spare lives, but these were superbly trained troops, and everything was in vain” .
6. "The Franco-Prussian War was won by a German schoolteacher", - Otto von Bismarck
Otto von Bismarck said a lot in his life that later turned into aphorisms. But, in addition to the real words of Bismarck, there are a lot of those that are erroneously attributed to him.
The author of the statement is Bismarck's contemporary, geography teacher Oskar Peschel. The words that appeared in a newspaper article in the summer of 1866 referred not to the Franco-Prussian, but to the Austro-Prussian war: "When the Prussians beat the Austrians, it was the victory of the Prussian teacher over the Austrian school teacher."
7. “Whoever was not a radical in his youth - he has no heart, who did not become a conservative in his maturity - he has no mind” , - Winston Churchill
Many people heard about this phrase of Churchill, but the trouble is that the British Prime Minister himself, obviously, never uttered it. British historians, having turned over the archives, have not found reliable confirmation of Churchill's utterance of this phrase.
Paul Addison of the University of Edinburgh states: “Churchill obviously couldn’t say this, since he himself was a Conservative at 15 and a Liberal at 35. Besides, he would have spoken so disrespectfully to Clemmie (Clementine Churchill, Winston’s wife - approx. ed.), who was considered a liberal all her life?
The most likely author of the expression is Francois Guizot, the Prime Minister of France in 1847-1848, who once said: “Who is not a republican at twenty, he has no heart; who is a Republican after thirty, he has no head.
8. "Any cook can run the state" , - Vladimir Lenin
Since the late 1980s, critics of the Soviet system and socialism in general have been actively trumpeting this phrase. Without entering into a dispute on the topic of whose ability to govern the state is higher - a Russian cook at the beginning of the 20th century or a Russian deputy at the beginning of the 21st century, it must be said that Lenin did not utter such words.
In this case, we are talking about a deliberate distortion of the real Leninist phrase. In October 1917, in the article “Will the Bolsheviks Retain State Power?” Lenin wrote: “We are not utopians. We know that any unskilled worker and any cook are not capable of immediately entering into government. On this we agree with the Cadets, and with Breshkovskaya, and with Tsereteli. But we differ from these citizens in that we demand an immediate break with the prejudice that only rich officials or officials taken from rich families can govern the state, carry out the everyday, daily work of government. We demand that training government controlled was carried out by conscious workers and soldiers and that it should be started immediately, that is, all working people, all the poor, should immediately be involved in this training.
As you can see, Lenin's original phrase has a completely different meaning.
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“If I fall asleep and wake up in a hundred years, and they ask me what is happening in Russia now, I will answer without hesitation: they drink and steal”
, - Mikhail Saltykov-Shchedrin
This phrase is known to everyone and is regularly found in the media. But Mikhail Evgrafovich Saltykov-Shchedrin, despite all his satirical talent, did not write or pronounce it. Most likely, the second contender for authorship, the Russian historian Nikolai Mikhailovich Karamzin, did not do this either. The phrase appears in Mikhail Zoshchenko's "Blue Book" with reference to the notebooks of Pyotr Andreevich Vyazemsky, who, in turn, refers to conversations with Karamzin. There is no reliable confirmation of the reality of the conversation in which such a phrase was uttered, so it can be considered the author's find of Zoshchenko himself.
10. “Every fool can handle a crisis. What is more difficult for us is everyday life» , - Anton Chekhov
This phrase has become especially active among Russian Internet users in recent times due to the economic crisis in the country. However, she is also popular abroad, since Anton Pavlovich Chekhov is one of the Russian writers and playwrights who are well known throughout the world.
The problem is that to this day no one has been able to find an indication of this phrase in the works, letters and memoirs of Chekhov.
Every word we say has a special energy. Some phrases are destructive. They should never be said to yourself, so as not to lose happiness and good luck.
People have always been prone to self-criticism. Very often we scold ourselves for mistakes, speak negatively about our appearance or criticize our mental abilities. Such statements not only affect self-esteem, but also destroy our energy background. Thus we lose our luck and feel unhappy. The site site team presents to your attention the 5 most destructive phrases that are forbidden to be spoken in your address.
Destructive phrases that you can not say about yourself
Sometimes the words spoken by another person can offend us. However, some phrases that we said to ourselves can do much more harm, destroy our happiness and good luck. To prevent this from happening, you need to know that you can not talk about yourself. If you avoid these expressions, you can change your life for the better.
I will never be happy. Every person in life experiences moments of disappointment in himself, but this is not a reason to predict failures for himself in the future. If you are now haunted by a black streak, you must try to change this situation. Whatever happens in your life, always be sure that tomorrow everything will change for the better. This statement will only deprive you of self-confidence, faith in the future and the desire to try, and without them we will never achieve happiness.
I am not handsome. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we certainly see minor flaws, but we should remember that every person has them. Sometimes, in a conversation with strangers, we begin to list them, without even thinking about the fact that our interlocutor is also not perfect. Praise yourself in front of the mirror as often as possible to avoid failure. Think of your flaws as what sets you apart from others. Over time, you will be able to love them and will no longer be so critical of your own appearance.
I am stupid. Of course, our mental abilities may be far from ideal, but this does not mean stupidity. People differ from each other in thoughts and opinions, and if your statements differ from those that the interlocutor said, and he looks at you with a mockery, there is no need to be upset. If all people thought the same way, then life would be boring. If you failed to realize your ideas or your actions appeal to the discontent of others, you should not pay attention. On the contrary, praise yourself as often as possible and always openly express your thoughts.
I won't be able to. When we are expected significant event where it is necessary to prove ourselves, we begin to doubt our abilities. In life, a person very often says that he will not be able to perform a certain action, but at the same time he does an excellent job with the task. However, not everyone can be lucky. Our words can affect our self-esteem and confidence, and if we think we can't do something, then we really won't be able to do it. It is important to always believe in yourself, and then you will find happiness and success.
I am a loser. In the life of every person there are disappointments, and at such moments we feel unhappy. The negative period in life will pass, but your phrase can really make you a loser. Whatever happens, don't say those words. Prove to yourself that you can do it. Believe that in the future you will succeed, and everyone can make a mistake. If you can love yourself, you will become
really happy.
Any phrases have energy, especially if we are talking about ourselves. Scolding yourself in front of a mirror, you harm your energy background. It is for this reason that luck and love can leave your life. We wish you to be healthy and happy, and don't forget to press the buttons and
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