“My husband works very hard. He knelt and asked for forgiveness, he gave flowers and gifts. He himself calls back every hour and a half and finds out how things are going, talks about where he is and what he is doing. He patiently talks to me and listens to how bad I feel. Everything, as you wrote in the article "?" But it won't let me go! How can I trust him again?
The question of my interlocutor should be reformulated. Not “how” to start trusting again, but “when” it will turn out to trust again.
In such a situation, when it comes to trust, the psychologist is expected to say magic words, an insight will happen, and immediately - “yes, now I can trust again!”.
But trust, like friendship, must be earned. After all, trust is closer to friendship and partnership than to love. Love is blind, it pays no attention to anything. Changes, does not change - I love and that's it.
What is meant by trust? Trust is a state in which you do not expect a dirty trick from a person. His (human) actions and intentions are predictable and aimed at the benefit of both of you.
Distrust is the expectation of betrayal, a "knife in the back."
Can you learn to trust after cheating?
Yes, you certainly may. But you have to try. Not only the traitor must want to regain trust, but you yourself. You were hurt, and now the soul is protected. Of course, it would be safer not to trust anyone else and never. But how well will you live without trust?
Have you ever walked in high heels? This is difficult for most women. But how the gait changes, how the look of men changes, how self-esteem changes! You already feel like a queen, having risen at least 4 centimeters above the ground. But it happens that it is because of the heel that falls happen. The higher the heel, the more expressive and painful the fall. Yes, there would be no heel, it would not hurt. However, the pain goes away. You have to decide - do you want to look at the world from above again or is it better without risk, but more reliable?
It's the same with trust. You can live without it. Relying only on themselves, reinsuring themselves, expecting a dirty trick from the whole world. This approach is safe, but severely limits your life. You will be deprived of emotional intimacy, spiritual unity, your soulmate.
Therefore, it is worth trying to overcome the protections of the soul and learn to trust again.
How to restore trust in a relationship after cheating
Distrust arises immediately and for a long time. Returning trust is a multi-stage process. You will not have such that trust immediately arises.
Yes, it happens that something slips between people, and an understanding arises - this person can be trusted. But, unfortunately, after treason this does not happen. Trust grows gradually, breaking through the heap of resentments and fears.
To help trust, you need to meet each of your fears, call them by name and let them go. Also - with every offense. It is difficult to do this on your own, it is easier to go to a psychologist. When resentment and fears begin to dissipate one by one, you will feel how your heart is gradually thawing. This will happen step by step. You need to be very attentive to yourself in order to notice how the situation is changing, how stages are changing one by one and trust is growing.
Steps to regain trust
Here are the signs of the return of trust I identified. They can appear gradually, one after another. Some may be missed, or you just didn't notice them.
- you start building general plans. When he talks about his intentions, you think first of all about how to combine them with yours, and not about whether he is lying or not.
- If you agreed that the husband now does not block the phone, does not hide his calls and correspondence, then at some point you begin to annoy the obsessive openness of his life.
- When the thought arises: What if I can't correct my mistakes?"- you react not with fear, but with fatigue, you want to shake off the hassle. Tired of thinking about it.
- Ask how the day went, not for the sake of checking, but to keep the conversation going about the past day.
- You want to get confirmation of his every promise. As confirmation, it is quite enough that he is actually ashamed and scared, you can see it on his face.
- Thought: “What if that woman starts hitting on him again?”- simply does not appear, even after watching films about unfaithful husbands.
- You can watch a movie together with episodes of betrayal, cry with sympathy and at the same time not feel hatred for your husband.
Which stage are you in right now? What can you safely afford? Plan? Discuss the day? Think about That Woman? Watch movies about family problems together?
Is absolute trust possible?
If you heard from someone that a wife can trust her husband 100%, and he can also trust her, you should know that your interlocutor is a cheerful dreamer. It is impossible not to be afraid of anything. It is impossible to be 100% trustworthy in a marriage. If that's what you're looking for, think about it! Absolute trust is indifference.
Doubt? Do you think that you completely trust your husband? Completely - this is enough to calmly leave him after 10 years of abstinence in a state of alcohol intoxication next to a woman who looks like you? I, of course, came up with the plot. But a fact is a fact - even the most faithful husband can find himself in a situation where circumstances will block all his beliefs, fortitude and fear of losing you.
Another question - why would you arrange SUCH a test, doom your husband to super-difficult tests? Trust is based on mutual respect, the desire not to harm each other. Not on checks.
Of course, the return of trust is the work of both spouses. The husband should not only want to regain trust, but also work in this direction. Also, you have to try.
Hello dear readers! Today I would like to talk about how to regain the trust of a husband after his wife's betrayal. Family relationships are going through various crises, from which spouses can emerge victorious or bring the situation to a divorce. Let's deal with the issue of trust and how not to lose it. After all, the family should always remain a strong rear that protects and helps.
What is treason
To begin with, I would like to paint variations on the theme of treason. After all, everyone understands this for themselves in different ways. I met different people who treated cheating almost absolutely polar.
Does loyalty mean that a person should not even look in the direction of others? Don't know. I met a young man who thought that if his girlfriend just looked at another man, then she had already cheated. This means that she is able not only to look, but also to move on to more active actions.
The most common concept of infidelity is sexual intercourse with another person. And then the disassembly begins. Whether it was once or it has been going on for a long time. Did this happen under the influence of alcohol or did the person consciously take this step.
One of my acquaintances is very categorical about going to the left. I modeled a situation for him: you have a strong family, three children who love you madly, you are crazy about each other, this is a real and strong family. But a situation happens and the wife kisses a colleague at a corporate party under the influence of alcohol. What will you do? He did not even think, but immediately answered: I would leave her. I began to ask, what about the children, what about the joint years of your happy life. No, he was categorically set on a divorce in such a situation. Here's your take on change.
Everyone decides for himself what he can survive and what not. There is no universal answer to the question of what can be considered treason. You yourself with experience define this concept for yourself. And the main thing here is your conversation with your spouse.
Partner agreement
In family relationships, it is very important to be able to negotiate and find compromises. When you know how to hear, are honest with each other and always try to resolve the conflict in a peaceful way, then you have every chance to build harmonious and happy relationship.Otherwise, it will be hard.
Is it possible to agree with a spouse about infidelity? Can. Easy. You express your attitude, he shares his thoughts with you. And in the end you come to a single decision. Life is long. Especially when people find their love at the age of twenty. No one will give you a guarantee that you will never want to kiss another person again in your life. Or feel an exciting touch. To avoid conflict, you must be prepared.
I'm not saying that it is necessary to give the go-ahead for trips to the left. But you can react more calmly to the communication of a spouse with female colleagues when you have a certain agreement. It is impossible to predict everything in the world. But it becomes much easier to live if you have an understanding of what theoretically can happen.
The agreement may relate to whether your partner wants to know about the betrayal or not. Is it worth it to talk about the fact that a colleague or boss sympathizes with you. Whether your spouse wants to see you flirt with other men. Everyone has a very different attitude to such things.
One of my friends immediately told her husband: if you change, it’s better to tell me, it will be easier for me. And one man said that he would rather just not know about it. If she comes home every time and everything is fine with them, then he does not care what she does in her free time.
How easy it is to break trust
Family relationships have always been and will continue to be based on the trust and honesty of the spouses. There is no other way to build a happy relationship. Without trust in a partner, it's just communication and nothing more.
When a man is constantly trying to catch you cheating, it means that he does not trust his wife. Either the wife gave a reason, or he had a negative experience, or he is just wildly jealous. loving man will not try to expose his beloved from scratch.
That is why it is very important to talk with a partner. About everything in the world. When you understand each other well, a bond arises between you that is not so easy to break. This is not achieved immediately. Long years training and you will reach a complete understanding with your spouse. Otherwise, relationships are not built.
Do not give unnecessary reasons for jealousy. Men really do not like to share with others. Especially what they rightfully have. Therefore, a wife should be very careful with other men. A wife's coquetry with a pizza delivery man can easily cause a jealousy attack on the part of her husband. Although, it would seem, such a fleeting and insignificant thing.
But what if the husband caught his beloved wife in treason? How to behave correctly? Maybe we should deny everything? As one of my acquaintances said, until you admit that you are wrong, you are not wrong. Confession makes you guilty either way. Or maybe you should just apologize? But what is the best way to apologize?
Let the truth
If the situation has already happened and the husband knows about the betrayal, then there are not very many options here. The first option is to deny everything. Stand your ground until victorious and never admit it in your life. But here it is important that no one else is aware of this story. Because even the most devoted friend can somehow accidentally blurt out in passing. The option is not the most correct, in my opinion.
The other way is to acknowledge. Maybe the spouse will not be able to forget it. But it is in your power to make sure that he understands that you will never make such a mistake. Returning lost trust is very difficult and painful. Subconsciously, the husband can wait until the end of his life from his wife for such an act. It all very much depends on the situation and on specific people.
You can try to build relationships in any case. It's worth spending more time together. Talk more. Always be honest and frank. You should not become the initiator of conflicts yourself. No need to humiliate yourself and be a whipping toy. And then some men like to turn their guilty wife into a slave. This should not be allowed under any circumstances.
You must go through this story together. After all, in a relationship there is no wrong only one person. Since the spouse committed such an act, it means that something went wrong in family relations. They don't leave a happy home, as they say.
Therefore, it is very important to understand the cause of betrayal. Because of what this happened, why the woman decided on such an act, how to correct the situation and restore harmony to the relationship. All this is in the hands of the spouses themselves.
Smart people they don’t throw everything away, but try to fix and fix it. This is the wisdom of family relationships.
be ready
When a wife decides to cheat, she must be well aware of the consequences that will follow her act. I have met men who cultivated the desire for punishment. They were obsessed with revenge on their wife for treason. And this happens.
Before you do something, think about whether the faithful would like to teach a lesson later. I have always been against revenge. This is a dishonorable and dirty business. I do not argue that sometimes letting go of the situation can be very difficult. But it is much more productive to draw conclusions, solve the situation and move on, and not get hung up on retribution.
Therefore, one must be prepared for any turn of events. Especially if you have no agreements and other things.
Confess
If a husband loves his wife, he will certainly listen to her. He, along with her, will look for a way out of the situation. Strong relationships cannot fall apart because of this betrayal. One of my close friends committed a sin while her husband was on a business trip. She came to me and asked what to do. I advised to tell everything honestly and just talk with my spouse about what to do next. She confessed, asked for forgiveness, told why she took such a step and what inspired her. Today they are one of the strongest couples I know. The husband was sympathetic to the situation. They went to a psychotherapist for a long time, resolved issues, talked a lot and learned to trust each other. And in the end, love won.
Another friend of mine, every time her husband is out the door, she is looking for an adventure. She doesn't say anything to her husband. When I asked how they build a family like that, she simply said: he doesn’t know and will never know, and I’m always happy then I run to his house.
The situations are very different. People are all different. Everyone perceives the news about the betrayal of a loved one in different ways. It is difficult to say how things will work out in a particular family. But I am sure that when people love each other sincerely and honestly, then problems do not matter to them. Here, the main thing is to really love your spouse, and not yourself in these relationships.
Human nature is multifaceted, and psychology is unpredictable. That is why sometimes we do things that we later regret. The number of cases when people themselves cannot explain their actions is growing every year. And experts in the field of psychology have already been able to resolve this dilemma.
The most difficult female mistake made in a relationship is cheating. Having betrayed their partner, but not wanting to part with him, young ladies begin to wonder how to regain the lost trust of their beloved after betrayal as quickly as possible.
The situation with deceit in a relationship can have only two outcomes: a loved one either leaves forever, or remains, but at the same time, communication between partners becomes quite difficult. And if it is simply impossible to restore trust in a broken couple, then in the second case there is still a chance to fix everything.
If even after a betrayal a man remains with his passion, then something is holding him: crazy and all-forgiving love, small and vulnerable children, jointly acquired property ... It doesn’t matter what exactly that very connecting thread is, but if it exists at all, it means a woman has the opportunity to regain the trust lost due to her betrayal.
How to restore relationships after infidelity: the opinion of experts in the field of psychology
To regain the trust of a loved one, you need to understand that a lie can hurt men more than physical violence, especially when it comes to the appearance of a rival in a relationship. Representatives of the stronger sex experience betrayal much longer and more difficult than women do.
Therefore, it is better to simply leave a man who is experiencing a betrayal of a loved one alone, giving him time to think and digest the situation. Given the peculiarities of male psychology, you need to prepare for the fact that the period of adaptation and making a final decision can last up to two months. Meanwhile, a woman who does not want to lose a loved one, in turn, can try to take a few steps to restore the relationship.
How to behave after betrayal?
To regain the trust of a man lost after infidelity, you need to:
- To clarify the situation a little, explaining that the betrayal was a huge mistake, after which only annoyance and disappointment remained.
- Don't justify yourself. But don't blame your partner. In dealing with him, be wise, restrained, benevolent and delicate.
- Apologize, but keep dignity. Do not position yourself as a betrayed and low woman. Remember that you had reasons for cheating, but try not to mention them.
- After a heart-to-heart talk about treason, close this topic forever. Stop his memories and questions. As a rule, men are gnawed by female betrayal for a long time and it seems to them that they should find out the whole truth. However, this will not make it any easier for anyone. Therefore, it is better not to tell the details, no matter how he asks.
- Be prepared for control and breakdowns, calmly accept all his claims.
- Don't interfere with strangers. Even if it seems that mutual friends will help to reconcile, everything can end very badly. It is better if other people do not know at all about the fact of betrayal and the return of trust.
- Always keep your promises. Do not talk in vain, even on trifles. Back up everything you say. Then the beloved will understand that there is no need to wait for lies from you.
- Be open, speak frankly about everything that happens. Let him feel you and your mood.
- Be the initiator of building joint plans for the near and far future.
- Show attention, but do not become intrusive. Try to do something for your beloved man even in his absence. Let him feel his demand and care.
In an attempt to regain the trust of a beloved man, it is important to understand that doing this is much more difficult than losing him as a result of infidelity. Therefore, you need to try to restore exactly those feelings and atmosphere that were paired before the unpleasant incident. Only in this case, a man will be able to relax and take a sober look at the situation.
Relationship prospects after infidelity
As a rule, the psychological nature of women makes them monogamous. That is, having met exactly their man, they can no longer look at others.
If a woman compares and decides to cheat, this only indicates that she is missing something in her current relationship, which means that next to her is simply not the right man. Therefore, experts in the field of psychology advise in this case to simply break off the usual and comfortable connection for the sake of the opportunity to gain something more in return.
“You deceived my trust,” the phrase is similar to a quote from a novel, but how often these banal words break girlish hearts and put an end to relationships.
The girl who made a mistake suffers from feelings of guilt and toils in search of answers to the question: "How to regain the trust of a guy after breaking up?"
If you betrayed a loved one, but repent of it, and want to renew the relationship, be prepared for the fact that this will take a long time. Be consistent and patient and everything will work out.
- Stop;
- Close your eyes;
- Take a deep breath;
- Take a slow breath;
- Think: why do you want everything back?
Love or guilt pushes you to reconcile with a guy? They say we only appreciate what we lose. But it also happens that this saying works against us.
Don't fool yourself!
The sentimental female soul, oppressed by remorse, begins to idealize the guy and attribute to him qualities that he never had. Try to calm the emotional storm and talk sensibly.
Lay out all the pros and cons of your relationship, without deceiving yourself. And if, even after such a detailed analysis, you realize that the guy is still dear to you and you need it, proceed to the “Return of the Beloved” plan.
Return the trust of a guy after a lie: a step-by-step plan
In the first place in the ranking of the reasons for the separation of couples is deceit.
Lying is an attempt to hide any information from a loved one.
Whether you did it for good or out of fear of losing love, the fact remains that you lied.
Didn't your mother warn you as a child that everything secret becomes clear? You want to go back to never commit this terrible act, but it's too late. Do not despair. You can return the guy's trust in yourself, although this process will require patience and endurance from you.
- Your first step: leave him alone. Immediately after the conflict and showdown, emotions overflow, both for him and for you. In such an atmosphere, it is very difficult to convey your point of view to a person and explain the reasons for your misconduct. Go to another room, catch your breath, drink some water. You can wash your face and perform a couple of breathing exercises.
- Second step: put yourself in his place. Yes, this advice is very simple, but try to imagine that it was your loved one who deceived and betrayed you. Feel free to imagine in colors. Would you be able to forgive him right away and still trust him? Be honest with yourself. Think about what the guy’s words and actions would later help you restore trust in the relationship and act accordingly.
- Third step: when passions subside, calmly admit your mistake. Do not be too cold-blooded and arrogant, show that you regret what you have done and sincerely repent. But don't overdo it. Leave scenes with wringing of hands and lamentations for cheap melodramas. Maintain self-respect and do not be humiliated in any way. You should talk like adults: calmly and to the point. You don't need to remember all of his mistakes to justify your own. First of all, admit the blame to yourself.
- Forget what he told you on emotions and listen carefully to what he has to say to you now. Perhaps it is in these words that there will be a clue to how you should behave in order to regain his trust.
- Get ready for a break in relationship. Understand that if he sincerely loves you, your lie caused him real pain. It takes time to forget about it and believe again. If he offered to take a break, don't resist or harass him with "random" encounters and endless calls. For a while, try to disappear from his life.
- Have patience. Lots, lots of patience. Wait for his call. The one who loves will surely forgive and return.
- There won't be a chance. When you get a second chance, remember that there won't be a third. Be extremely careful and attentive in words and deeds. Cherish relationships.
- Trust. Don't show distrust towards the guy. You should not hack into his pages on social networks, read his SMS and check his pockets. Don't bother. Down with calls every half an hour with a stupid question "Where are you?".
By following this plan, you will be able to return your love and become the best for a guy again.
On a note!
Some psychologists believe that it is easier to restore trust to psychologically and financially independent people.
If you are financially dependent on your young man, he may think that you are talking to him insincerely, you are just afraid of being left without support.
The man also has a fear that he will be deceived once again.
Cheated on a guy how to regain trust and is it possible?
Cheating is the most vile betrayal of all that a loved one can commit.
By cheating, you make it clear to the guy that you have found someone better than him, thereby lowering his self-esteem below the baseboard.
A person who has been cheated on may experience shock and anger, it is difficult for him to accept what happened.
What to do - cheated on a guy, how to regain trust?
- Do not go under the hot hand. A person who has learned about treason is capable of terrible things in a state of passion. Disappear. Let him accept this situation and make his own decision about what to do next.
- Take the time to speak frankly. Explain the reasons for your action. Whether it was an innocent flirtation, a kiss, or a real betrayal - it does not matter. He must understand why this happened, otherwise, even if you restore the relationship, conflicts cannot be avoided.
- Don't rush things. Give him enough time and freedom to decide for himself whether he can be with you and trust you.
- Don't throw tantrums. Don't get on your knees and beg him to stay. Do not blackmail him with a possible suicide or imaginary pregnancy. Maybe he will take pity on you and stay, but do you need this pity? And cheating with pregnancy will certainly break your relationship forever.
- Forgive yourself. It is very important. Even if it’s not possible to regain the guy’s trust after cheating, you must let go of this situation. Talk to a close friend or a psychologist, give yourself the opportunity to cry. Accept the fact that you can't fix what you've done. Live on, having taken precious experience out of this situation.
- If you are together again, appreciate your loved one. Never give him a reason to even think that you can betray him again. Trust him yourself and do not remember this incident.
It doesn’t matter what exactly prompted you to cheat, and it’s not worth talking about how bad it is. If you still care about your boyfriend, try following these tips to get him back.
After parting
You have tried everything you can, but you have not been able to return your loved one.
Grief overwhelms you, and you do not know how to live on?
Even though it’s hard for you to believe it now, know that everything will be fine.
Sooner or later you will forget it and find new love In the meantime, try the following tips.
- Don't shut yourself up in my solitude and in my apartment. Go to a friend, talk heart to heart. Try to cry, more often after that and the truth becomes easier. It will be easier to get over a breakup if you are not alone.
- Treat yourself. For example, sweet. But there is no need to seize stress with kilograms of cakes and sweets. You run the risk of becoming a fat depressive woman. According to the law of meanness, it is in this form that your ex will meet you. And he will be glad that you broke up.
- Remember your mistakes. And never step on the same rake again. Do not lie, do not betray the trust of your loved one, and do not cheat.
- Change your life. Update your wardrobe, change your hair and makeup, if possible, change your home. In the old place, you will constantly remember the moments associated with your love, looking at the dress, remember that you were in it when the guy kissed you for the first time. This will inevitably plunge you into a new abyss of sadness. Leave the guy and everything that reminds you of him in the past.
- Take care of yourself. Sign up for a fitness or aerobics class. In addition to the fact that your body will become slim and attractive, you will spend your evenings not in front of the TV, but in the gym. By the way, a good chance to meet a new boyfriend there.
- Take your time make new acquaintances. Believe me, such a relationship will not bring you satisfaction, but will only open up barely healed wounds.
If your relationship has cracked because you cheated on a guy or cheated on him, how to restore trust in a relationship with a guy? Don't forget that it's still possible.
Everything passes and this will pass!
You will need all your endurance and willpower, a lot of patience and time, which, as you know, heals. But don't forget that your loved one has the right to say goodbye to you.
Understand that life does not end with the departure of a loved one. Yes, now you are hurt and offended, you blame only yourself for everything and think that you do not deserve happiness, but this is not so. Very soon the pain will pass, and you will definitely meet a new love.
You can find additional information on this topic in the section.
Trust is a very multifaceted spiritual feeling, because, as you know, it is easy to lose it, and it is extremely difficult to win it again. Today, psychologists are often approached by women who cannot figure it out on their own and understand how to restore relations with their husband after infidelity.
Regardless of the circumstances that led to such an act, it is necessary to fight to save family relationships. Psychologists say that most couples choose the wrong tactics of behavior, while they only remain physically together, but morally and mentally - people are too far from each other. The main task facing the specialist is to explain to the couple how to find the strength and time to restore that emotional background, which was before the misconduct, to return a sense of security, safety and family well-being.
However, in the practice of psychologists, there are quite often such cases when the husband only suspects his beloved of infidelity. On this basis, he begins to feel unreasonable jealousy, anger, distrust towards his wife. If a man is loaded with the question of how to find out that his wife is cheating, then first you need to figure out if there are real reasons for this, or this is how male jealousy manifests itself.
Steps to reconcile with husband after infidelity
If the fact of treason was, then experts advise to behave calmly and measuredly in such situations. Your partner, either suspecting you of treason, or having already learned this truth from you, may behave aggressively, angrily, say a lot of hurtful words, and in this case, this will be a completely adequate reaction to the pain that you caused. You should not give up these relationships, you definitely need to fight for them. To do this, you need to take these steps:- Do not be silent and wait until the whole situation is resolved by itself. You need to talk to your partner. Moreover, it is important to be as honest and frank as possible, to tell the whole truth, even if it is difficult to tell a loved one. Denial of infidelity can only aggravate the situation between partners. It is also important to conduct a dialogue in such a way that the man understands that you want to return his trust;
- if a man asks questions, you should try to answer them frankly and honestly. New lies will not be able to help you restore relationships. It is worth answering even those questions that you would not like to discuss;
- the betrayal of a girl deals a strong blow to the male psyche, because by such an act she demonstrates that she has chosen another man. That is why it is important for a woman to convince her partner that she is done with the person she cheated with;
- you don’t need to try to find excuses for a woman, explain the reasons for your misconduct, you just need to admit your guilt, ask for forgiveness from a person dear to you.
Is your husband's trust returning quickly?
The very first and natural reactions of a deceived man will be distrust, resentment and suspicion. You should not expect that a person can quickly forgive you and pretend that nothing happened. Of course, in order to survive severe emotional stress, a man needs time. During this time, he will be able to rethink your misconduct. Perhaps, communication may be interrupted for some time, until the man moves away from these events. Gradually, the pain of a woman's betrayal will subside, because if a man cannot live without you, he will definitely forgive.According to many psychologists, this offense can even bring positive points in the relationship of two people: after all, a man will be able to pay attention to the reason why a woman could do this. Frequent factors in which women commit adultery is a feeling of loss of interest in their personality on the part of a man, lack of care, attention, warmth, affection and care. A new partner can provide such signs of attention to a lady, but most often, this is just flirting in order to attract a beautiful girl and get only one thing from her.
The opinion of a psychologist on the betrayal of his wife
Psychologist's advice on how to forgive a cheating wife is as follows:- it is important to understand that if you want to save your family and connect your life with this person, then this misconduct of a woman must be forgiven and let go of grievances;
- after you have learned about the fact of infidelity, it is better to stay in your thoughts for a while, let go of anger, anger, and as soon as you leave, you should talk to a woman;
- It is important to remember that life is full of disappointments and difficulties. You need to be able to overcome them, preserving the most valuable thing in your life. Everyone has the right to make a mistake;
- you should not abandon a person in case of treason, because the difficulties experienced can only unite you even more;
- having committed such an offense, a woman should be patient. If she wants to regain her trust, she must remember that this is a long process;
- try to be close to your partner: both physically and spiritually. This will alleviate emotional stress.
