Social networks and the Internet, which have become part of the everyday life of our time, have greatly simplified the acquaintance of people with each other. However, in recent times speed dating has become a newfangled trend - with the help of special applications and services. The article will focus on Tinder - how it works, what it is for, reviews and methods of use.
Description
Tinder- mobile app created specifically for dating. Available on Android and iOS platforms. The prototype of the program was a service for dating between gay people. By the way, "tinder" is translated from English as "fuse".
The application gained popularity due to the fact that it uses geolocation to identify users in the immediate vicinity of the smartphone, as well as fast way select the desired option. The goals of dating are both long-term relationships and short-term ones.
Work algorithm
The principle of operation of the application is based on compiling your own profile, which indicates: gender, age and name. The main source of evaluation of a potential partner are photos uploaded by the user. The very process of viewing candidates takes place in the screening mode from the entire set of pictures of people. If the user is liked, then the corresponding label is put, if not, the photos are shown further. This is done by each participant in the service, and if there are matches, then the pair is informed about it. From that moment on, they can start a chat between themselves and arrange a personal meeting and continue communication.
Project development
The founders of Tinder are Hatch Labs. The program was first released in 2012. As of 2014, the number of ratings exceeded 400 million per day. In 2015, the studio introduced additional paid features that were required to expand the capabilities and further development applications.
Today, Tinder is the number one download in app stores.
How to meet on Tinder?
After downloading and installing the launched application will prompt you to enter the profile. To do this, there is a convenient opportunity to log in through your Facebook account. True, for this, the Facebook application itself must also be present on the device.
All basic information about age, gender and name will be “pulled up” from the social network. Therefore, before using Tinder, you can change some data on Facebook, if necessary.
How to make a profile?
The main criterion is photography. Therefore, it should be clear and the presence of the user himself is desirable on it. The more photos, the more detailed it will be possible to assess the good and bad sides of a person.
To expand the search area, you need to specify this in the settings. This is due to the fact that there may not be suitable options in the current city or area.
To start looking for a partner, you must specify the age range of interest, as well as gender. The application will then suggest the first candidate. The screen will show his photo, name and age. To indicate that the user liked, just swipe the screen to the right or click on the heart. A swipe to the left or a cross means that the candidate is not interested.
As soon as a couple is formed, that is, two people have indicated in each other's profiles that they are interested in dating, Tinder will notify about this. Now you can start communicating with a potential soulmate through the built-in chat.
Dating reviews in the mobile version of "Tinder" and recommendations
Regular users of Tinder have developed their strategies around proper dating. They differ, depending on who gets acquainted - a guy or a girl. Which is quite natural, because different goals are often pursued.
Here is a small set of patterns from dating reviews in mobile version"Tinder" for girls:
- You should not publish too candid photos, as this emphasizes accessibility.
- If the couple got together, and the guy really liked, you should not write to him first, let him show his imagination and interest the girl.
- In communication, you should use fewer different emoticons, signs and "emoji", sometimes a banal "hello" looks much more aesthetically pleasing.
- You should not publish photos with other guys, brothers, etc., as this is a clear signal for men - this is either a former or current boyfriend, and, accordingly, a hindrance.
Reviews of dating in the mobile version of "Tinder" from men look a little different:
- Always write first. There was a match - write, one more - write more.
- Eliminate the banal “Hi! How are you?" and write something about what is shown in the photo and can contribute to acquaintance.
- Show as much interest in the girl as possible.
- Do not delay with a personal meeting. The sooner the guy offers to meet, the better.
- it is better to choose closer to the place of residence of the partner. This will increase the chances of a successful outcome, because she will not have to go through the whole city.
- Successful photos. Great shots from the gym or fitness center.
Success and failure on Tinder
Success rates vary widely on Tinder as well. Some users note that in reality everything does not happen as quickly as they would like. Someone in their reviews of the mobile version of Tinder dating says that very few partners responded when trying to find a mate. And only in one case out of ten did it even come to a real meeting. Analyzing the situation, the user writes that perhaps the whole point is in the approach of the application - you need to evaluate a person in a few seconds just from a photograph, which, of course, does not allow you to fully understand his inner world.
A lot of positive feedback about the Tinder dating site comes from people who appreciate the simplicity of the process. What could be easier - you sit, choose, if you like a person - swipe to the right, if you don't like it - to the left. There is no need to suffer great disappointment in case of failure, because there are still many options with which everything can work out.
Also, from the reviews of the Tinder dating site, you can understand that the service has a very small percentage of the so-called "thrown" and "bred", which are full of many online services of similar subjects.
But do not discount the successful cases of dating and further relationships. Among the reviews of the Tinder computer program, you can find many good endings, when people really find each other, and are in a relationship to this day.
As for the application itself, a lot of reviews are devoted to how quickly the program "eats" the battery.
These little tips will help everyone increase their chances of a successful dating.
Among those who can be found on the Tinder dating app, people who smile in their photos are more likely to come forward. After all, they are positive and good mood, which means they are disposed to themselves.
It is believed that the most successful angle for photography is a semi-profile. It is worth using this trick more often to increase your chances of a successful acquaintance.
It's very easy to talk about your passions with relevant photos. People who maintain the same lifestyle and goals will appreciate and see "their" person.
When communicating in a chat, it is very important to remain literate, to use unusual turns of speech. Now it is in trend, and the absence of grammatical and spelling errors is a big step towards success.
Even if the user is looking for a one-night stand, it's still worth pointing out broader perspectives. Who knows how the first date will turn out? Maybe it will lead to a serious relationship.
You should not immediately explicitly weed out people with phrases like "not a sponsor" or "terrible past." This not only repels potentially good candidates, but also speaks of bias.
Humor, irony and the ability to laugh at oneself are important factors that are relevant in any environment and era. It is worth using them for your own purposes.
To have an interesting conversation, you need to know more about your interlocutor. To do this, you can carefully study his profile on social networks and bring the topics of conversation to what is closer to him.
You should not send your photos, especially of an intimate nature. unfamiliar people. This could have very negative consequences in the future.
If the meeting did take place, it is advisable to carefully prepare for it. Guys - in order to surprise as much as possible, girls - to show themselves in all their glory.
Finally
It remains to be hoped that the tips from the article will be useful to beginners in online dating. Someone for a couple of meetings, others - for serious relationship. The application is still gaining momentum in Russia, and every day the base is replenished with more and more new “applicants”. Therefore, you should download Tinder, log in and see who is ready to meet in your hometown.
The Tinder app, which appeared about two years ago, completely changed the concept of online dating: now it’s not a shame to admit that you get to know each other via the Internet, and the procedure itself does not look like a boring questionnaire. In addition, thanks to Tinder, dating has become quick and easy (one click, and you are already texting each other and arranging a meeting), and also lost all territorial limits, because with this application it turned out, more than ever, to simply look for new acquaintances for border (again, one click, and someone very nice, judging by the photo, is ready to show you the city!).
Per a short time Tinder has gone mainstream entertainment with more than 50 million people now using it, which means dating will never be the same for them...
Tinder dating software (Tinder): what is it and how does it work?
The translation of Tinder from English is “wick”, “fuse”. I saw a photo of some handsome man and how it caught fire! But seriously, Tinder works great as a Friday or Saturday night before bedtime, when for some reason you “shut down” all the parties and cozy up on the couch in front of the TV (by the way, according to our personal statistics, it was at this time users are especially active in correspondence), - something like computer game, only with real heroes.
So how does the tinder dating app work and how do you use it? This mobile application reminds social network feed, only you need to view it not from bottom to top, but from left to right, and human faces appear in it, not cat-dogs, legs on the background of the beach and photographs of food. All you need is to rate other Tinder users. You have only two choices: either click on the green heart and like the user, or on the red cross and reject it to instantly move on to the next one. You can like and dislike even easier: swipe left - dislike, swipe right - like. There is a third option, to make a swipe up - this is a super like.
If the sympathy coincided, and you both "liked" each other, then you are given the opportunity to chat. If you were "liked" before you did, then the chat will pop up immediately after you click on the green heart. If this did not happen, then this does not mean at all that the selected person did not like you: there is a chance that he is not very active in the search, will go online later and “like” you. Tinder does not provide any data on how many people wanted to meet you, and how many rejected you, so you don’t have to worry about self-esteem: everything is based only on the mutual desire to communicate.
Opinions about Tinder
Reviews about the Tinder application on the network are very different: many people like simpler versions of dating sites, but still, in most reviews, users describe exactly pros of tinder. For example, the same link to Facebook almost completely cuts off bots, and you see your common interests, even common acquaintances (yes, how small the world is!). Also, many note an interesting modern interface, while easy to manage.
Marina, journalist : « There's always the fear that the guy you share a Tinder crush with is going for a one night stand or something. My goal is the most pure: to find my love. Despite my profession, I don’t really get to meet people just to build relationships, it always comes down to work. With Tinder, everything is simpler: here I am not a journalist, but just a girl who loves to take pictures, travel and cook paella. So far, out of 10 common likes, only 2 dates have come out, but I was lucky: the guys came across interesting and smart, while my girlfriends, on the contrary, were just Don Juan».
Ivan, programmer : « I would not say that I am delighted with the application, but it is definitely better than other dating sites. It's incredibly easy on Tinder to find a girl for 1 night or build a relationship without obligations: I don't know how many one-day romances I had, I lost count, and a simple affair with one girl lasted for two whole months. Now I again sometimes look into the application when I'm bored. I'm not happy with it, rather, because it would improve the functionality».
Miroslava, student : « I have a lot of friends at the university, but Tinder is a platform where I can choose friends according to my interests. I usually go through the profile in detail if I find general groups, acquaintances - definitely like it! I rarely like, but aptly: I went on 3 dates, I just correspond with some - and that's great! I don’t like it so much in any social network: simple and interesting».
How to log into Tinder without Facebook?
If you still don't know how to log into tinder without Facebook, we can assure you: neither do we! After all, Tinder and Facebook, in fact, go hand in hand. And by no means just like that: it is important that the application has the most real, and not fake personalities, as happens on other dating sites. Many people around the globe have their own account (and quite a real one) on Facebook, so linking to this popular social network is logical. In those countries where access to Facebook is closed, Tinder developers promise to set up an entrance to the application using SMS.
Also Linking to Facebook brings you closer by interests: At the bottom of each profile, shared groups that both of you have "liked" are shown. So by whether he likes Banksy, Dior Homme or the Society of Young Scientists, you can already determine what kind of person he is.
You don’t have to worry about synchronization with Facebook: Tinder will not share your acquaintances and post any information on the wall.
How to see who superliked on Tinder?
As mentioned above, a super like is a swipe up. If you have a free version of the application, you can only get 1 super like per day, if the subscription is paid - as many as 5 super likes. How do you know that someone sent you a super like? While you scroll through the candidates and swipe left and right, be careful: the profile of the person who sent you a super like will be highlighted blue color and there will be a blue star in the photo below.
Are you serious?
Is it possible to find love through Tinder, or is this application more likely to pass the evening (or night - underline as necessary) with someone? “It looks like real life, only better,” is the slogan accompanying Tinder by its creators. Practice shows that out of about ten coincidences that flow into correspondence, one can definitely turn into a timid offer to go somewhere together, and thanks to such simple manipulations on the phone, you organized a real date for yourself. There are those who count on quick sex and instantly invite you somewhere after the first three or four questions in the chat.
Adherents of the “vintage” approach to relationships, of course, will say: what about this magical moment when our eyes met, he smiled at me and I understood at first glance that this was fate? Indeed, there is not too much romance and miracle in making a click to the left and a click to the right, but not all long and strong relationships begin according to the script of a Hollywood melodrama. A huge plus of programs like Tinder is that they make you stop dreaming and finally move on to action - to dating.
How is Tinder changing the very attitude towards online dating?
– Dating has gone from a must-have to an entertaining one.. Becoming something like communication in a social network - an ordinary procedure and at the same time very fun. You can click either on the red cross or on the green heart in Tinder endlessly, or you can even do it together with your girlfriends, exchanging photos of “finds”. Finally, from photoshopped photos and abstruse quotes in the profile, we moved on to banal human communication, which is not yet burdened by the need to fight "bots" and annoying maniacs.
- You can not be afraid to get acquainted first. You think to yourself, “Damn, what a handsome guy, you should tag him,” and you immediately get a match. Is not it the best remedy cheer up yourself and your self-esteem? For girls who have been bored alone for more than a month, Tinder will definitely remind something of a tasting in a candy store: if your “hello!” if one does not answer, then the other will definitely answer, you have already coincided and liked each other.
– « Tinder breaks gender stereotypes about dating. It is generally accepted that, unlike superficial and sex-hunting men, women need more information about their personality and interests in order to get in touch with the opposite sex. Tinder proves otherwise: according to statistics, women press the red X 70% of the time - slightly more than men do on this application. Another plus of this application is especially acute against the backdrop of the macho traditions of our society: if in real life women are forced to endure annoying "tackles" from subjects that are unpleasant to them, then here it is excluded, because a person has access to your life only if you have given him "green light".
– We are no longer ashamed to "meet by clothes". The principle of functioning of the profile in "Tinder": a maximum of photos and a minimum of words. And the fact that photography carries more information than popular expression, the creator of the new app, Sean Red, is absolutely right: "If I post a photo of myself in a ski resort, it's not at all the same as if I posted my picture from Vegas."
– An ordinary weekend in Europe can be turned into an acquaintance tour. Many people download this app right at the airport and even if they are not looking for an adventure in the spirit of the movie Before Dawn, they are at least happy to pull up foreign languages, discover unusual sights and explore local restaurants in pleasant, unobtrusive company.
Dating services appeared, probably, simultaneously with the first Internet sites. This is understandable - the Internet has made it possible to meet people, not limited to one city or even a country. "Classic" online dating services tried to tell as much as possible about those people who want to get acquainted through the site. It is unlikely that anyone expected that the more than minimalistic Tinder dating service would not only become popular, it would literally blow up the Internet. Moreover, other services began to appear that repeat the basic principle of "Tinder" not only in relation to dating, but also in relation to other things - the choice of an apartment, clothes, a place to relax.
What is the peculiarity of the Tinder service and why has it become so popular?
One of the main secrets of "Tinder" is in its minimalism. People are tired of web forms and no longer want to fill out lengthy questionnaires, answering dozens of questions about what the purpose of their acquaintance is and who they want to see as a partner. Moreover, they are well aware that few people read these profiles, and the decision on whether to try to get acquainted, in most cases, is made on the basis of an ordinary photo.
Tinder users are offered photos of people of the opposite sex. Moreover, only the photo is visible, there is no such detailed profile that we are used to in other dating services. After viewing the photo, the user can evaluate it literally in one "swipe" (moving a finger across the smartphone screen) - a swipe to the left means that the other person's profile is not interesting, a swipe to the right expresses interest in the profile. If the interest turned out to be mutual, that is, both users marked each other's profiles as interesting, they can start chatting. Tinder itself offers profiles for evaluation based on the interests of Facebook users as well as their location. In other words, it will be difficult for young ladies from Kyiv to get acquainted with men from New York using Tinder, but Kiev residents registered in Tinder will be at your service.
The minimum effort that needs to be made to expand the circle of acquaintances is the grain that formed the basis of the popularity of "Tinder". In addition, psychologists explain the interest in the application by a certain element of gamification (games) - users often want to scroll through a contact, thinking, what if the next photo is exactly the one (or only) that I have been looking for for a long time? Thus, Tinder became not only a dating service, but also a kind of game, entertainment that both men and women were engaged in, and often not alone, but in a company.
If a person is chosen, his self-esteem rises - another drop of vanity on the Tinder popularity flywheel. Moreover, even those who have a couple actively use the service - after all, it is not necessary to communicate on Tinder, since the application exists in order to "look at people."
From one photo in a dating app, you can go to such personal details of a person as a phone number and home address. Medialeaks conducted an experiment and shows with live examples how this is done and how to protect yourself from it.
Tinder is a dating app whose creators have been talking about the security of users since its inception: you yourself choose who to chat with in the app and get rid of unwanted interlocutors forever with one swipe. But using just one Tinder photo, you can find out enough information about any user of the service that he has reason to worry - from a real name to a person's phone number and his home address. We show how they do it.
Photo from the personal page of one of the "experimental"
From Tinder photos to real hobbies and a name
This is already better - we see Dima's profile on VKontakte (the service only works with this social network). For some reason, FindFace made him a year younger, but the page is genuine - the author of the article with this account has enough mutual friends on the social network to be sure of this.
On the page you can find out Dmitry's last name and see a link to his Instagram account. It already contains selections of photographs from the group's concerts - this is how we find out that Dmitry is related to them. Returning to VK and entering the name of the group in the search, we find out that Dmitry is managing Shadows of Freedom.
Check out other social media. A Facebook request will give us the same first and last name, as well as several geotags that Dmitry puts on photos - in addition to those that we saw on VKontakte. Everywhere Moscow, but public places and different areas, so we can't find Dima's house yet.
You can try to find the rest of the social networks on the Namechk resource - the site is designed to check the availability of your nickname in various social networks, from VK to Tumblr. Many users prefer to use the same word in their account addresses. Let's check dimakuts (as indicated on the VKontakte network), kuts_dima (from Instagram), dkuts (Facebook).
The last step does not always work, and you need to check several options for links at once, but you can find useful information. In the case of Dima, this was not found, so it's time to move on to less "white" resources, where we find out his phone number and address.
From social networks to phone and home address
There are several databases at the same time where you can view and download information about a particular user, based only on his name. Since Russian law prohibits such disclosure of personal information about users, Medialeaks will not publish links and names of such services. At the same time, at least one of them is not blocked on the territory of the Russian Federation.
By the date of birth (we saw it on Facebook and VKontakte), we understand which of Dmitriev is ours, and voila - we have his address, and at the same time his patronymic.
The final touch is the phone. There is also a service for this, about which, even when it was not blocked on the territory of the Russian Federation, and this service is not the only one.
You can also try to find Dmitry on the website of the bailiffs of the Russian Federation: if he had problems with the law, information about this could be found on the website in the public domain.
So, having only one photo of Dmitry from Tinder in use, we were able to find his accounts in other social networks, find out his real last name and first name, home address, phone number, as well as the names of his relatives (we do not publish this information for obvious reasons).
We know what you borrowed from the library
Dmitry was aware that we collect information about him, but this does not always happen with the permission of the account holders. So we repeated the experiment with strangers.
Alyonka, 24, graduated from Moscow State University - that's all we know about her from Tinder. There are two more photos on my profile. A Google image search will turn up nothing, but if you upload one of the photos to FindFace, then among the masses of identical fake accounts with the same avatar on VKontakte, there is Alina L (name changed at the request of the account owner). This, of course, is not Alyonka, but the page looks like a real one: Alina has been posting selfies since 2015, sometimes talking about herself and her friends, and also takes part in creative competitions.
In the status of the girl, her instagram is indicated, but it is empty. Having entered the girl’s first and last name received from VKontakte into Facebook, we see that she has a page there too, but the last post was published in 2016.
Google gives out information that the girl owed a book in the library of Moscow State University, and third-party services suggest her date of birth and patronymic. That's all - a search by nickname did not give anything, there is no girl in the database of bailiffs, as well as on the services of addresses and phone numbers.
Alla told Tinder that her work is related to advertising, she loves animals and learns foreign languages. The profile of Lisa Sizova on VKontakte (name changed), found from a photo from the service, told a little more: using the girl’s first and last name, we managed to find her home address, date of birth and phone number. By the way, she indicated Prague as her city of residence, but lives in Moscow.
Photographer and gamer Svetlana turned out to be Sveta Lisitseva from Moscow. She doesn't care about her privacy and has allowed Medialeaks to release any data we find. But, perhaps, she knew that nothing would be found - the girl remained a mystery to us: no address, no phone number, or anything else that she did not write about herself on VKontakte or Instagram.
Show me the spelling
The men were more fun. It turns out that many of those whom we came across on Tinder do not have a Moscow residence permit, although they set the capital as their city of residence. Therefore, it is more difficult to find information about them - most of the existing services link personal data to registration, so there was no need to find something new about people: most often we found only mobile phone numbers.
But one of the examples turned out to be very strange. Another random user with a minimum of information about himself, but a lot of photos, was no different from the others, and it turned out to be just as easy to find him on VKontakte - and then his address and phone number.
But found on VKontakte, Ivan was surprised to learn how Medialeaks stumbled upon his profile. He said that he was never registered with Tinder. However, the guy confirmed that the application uses his photos from VKontakte, so he suggested that someone created a fake page and maintains it on behalf of Ivan. So the information collected from one photo from a fake account allowed us to obtain data real person, who was not even aware that his photo was being used somewhere.
How to avoid unwanted attention
Variety of avatars. Use different pictures for different social networks - especially for dating sites and apps. Avatars with cats are, of course, a working method, but even without them you can reduce the chance of unwanted persecution - neural networks and services like FindFace are less likely to find people by a unique picture than by the same Instagram photo for all social networks. Separately, it is worth noting Tinder: we could not find people with selfies and pictures taken specifically for this resource.
Every word about yourself is worth its weight in gold. Write less about yourself. VKontakte is the most popular social network in the Russian Federation, but at the same time the most unprotected in terms of personal data. For example, FindFace searches only for photos from VKontakte and has access to them, while Facebook, Instagram and Twitter do not appear in the search for the same Google images. The administration of the social network insists on indicating the name and surname registered in the passport, but above we have shown how attackers can use this.
There is no privacy for those who do not care about it. Check your privacy settings if you want to stay private. The same "VKontakte" allows you to hide the page from search engines(but this may not work with photo search in FindFace).
It's not all that bad. For example, addresses found in illegal databases don't seem to have been updated since the mid-2000s. The phone of our experimental Dmitry has not been used by him for a long time, although some of the respondents confirmed that the database contains their current mobile numbers. Not everyone lives at the registration address either.
In addition, when searching, we considered only residents of Moscow (Tinder shows people closest to the user), and in smaller cities such illegal databases with personal data are absent in most cases - they are not even in the Moscow region. In general, Medialeaks was able to access the unpublished data of about half of the users, and we got to information about relatives only in a few cases (we did this without fanaticism, of course).
So you may not need a tinfoil hat this season - just sometimes remember what happens to what you post online.
This article is based solely on my own practical experience, any opinion expressed is subjective. For some ideas and tricks, special thanks to Timur Kotov, Men's University project.
Introduction
It's no secret that with the widespread dominance of various gadgets at the present time, online communication in in social networks even with strangers is quite commonplace and is perceived normally.
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At the same time, dating sites and apps still seem repulsive to many because of stereotypes that online dating is the prerogative of losers who cannot meet in person.
So what if you want to get acquainted without going outside with people who do not sit on dating sites in their classic form, but have a positive attitude towards communication on social networks and want to find a mate?
Do you use Tinder for dating?
No, I use other networks 8%, 5 votes
No, I like real dating 6%, 4 vote
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Tinder (and other applications similar in principle) come to the rescue. In essence, Tinder is a mixture of a dating application and some kind of social network. networks (the latter even in a big way, because it is possible to link your account with Instagram). The principle of the application is that random people who do not know each other exchange likes, and only after the match of sympathies, they can communicate if they wish.
Dear friend, if you follow the tips described below, you will be able to interest and date girls you really like, and not be content with “average” options. It will be possible to gain new communication experience and increase self-esteem, which will give self-confidence, which girls highly appreciate.
Your profile
A photo
The profile should contain at least 3 photos, where you are alone, so that the girl understands who the owner of the profile is. Preferably in different images (clothes). In the photo, it is preferable to look past the lens, as if the photo was not taken on purpose. Smiling or being serious - what is closer to you or how you are better at it.
Show your strengths. Choose angles and clothes depending on your physique. If you're tall, take your photo full height if not, then it is preferable to take a waist-length photo. The same applies to the presence/absence muscle mass, fullness / thinness, etc. You might think that given move looks like cheating, but you're just showing your best side to visually interest the girls. By the way, they also do this, which will be discussed further in the paragraph “Expectation / reality”.
Show that you are active and versatile: post photos from work, photos from travels, photos with animals, a photo in which you are busy with your hobbies, hobbies.
It should be clear from your profile photos that you are an adequate person and you can meet in real life.
photoset
Book a photo session, yes! if you don't know how to pose, read articles, watch videos, invest in yourself. Ask the photographer to tell you how to hold your head, hands, etc. For a higher output, choose a female photographer. And before that, it is also advisable to spend time shopping with a stylist girl who will dress you so that other girls like you.
Selfie
If you position yourself from the point of view of a serious and successful (promising) man, then you should have photos taken by other people so as not to look like there is no one to photograph you except yourself. For your profile, do not put a photo in the mirror of a rocking chair, lift looks, selfies while driving a car (especially if it is not yours). The only acceptable selfie option is a photo where you can't see that it's a selfie.
Old photos
It's great if you have good and / or professionally taken photos, but if they are more than a couple of years old, we forget about them. Naturally, not all people are subject to strong external changes over time. But imagine that you are posting a photo of 5 years ago. Now you may be wearing a beard, the style of clothing has changed, you look banal older, etc., you will come to the meeting from the present, and not from the past, leave the supply of false expectations also behind.
Below the photo upload field, there is an option to connect an Instagram profile. It makes sense to connect it if you have a really good account with high-quality photos, a mature theme and a certain number of subscribers (at least > 100). Otherwise, let a few profile photos speak for you, specially selected to highlight your strengths and hide your flaws.
Description
The description must be, and it must be original. Girls are mostly curious creatures, some good photos some of them will not be enough, they will want to look into your head, even if only a little. In terms of volume - you do not need to use all 450 characters, a couple of lines are enough. All the points described below can be combined with each other for greater efficiency.
I. Describe your qualities. “ I am cheerful, active, independent, purposeful" etc.
What do you like/dislike. Describe your tastes: “I like sports cars, vinyl records, hanging out with friends”, etc. “Don't like people who smoke, unrealistic expectations, aspic”
What do you like in girls. Do not write that you want to meet such and such a girl, this is understandable since you are on Tinder(especially in the style of “Looking for a slender blonde with plump lips and breasts of 3 sizes”)). It is better to write your preferences: “Girls like sincerity, care, the ability to cook, devotion to their man”, etc.
Call to action. Here you need to make the girl perform the action that you need. “If you are looking at my profile now, smile and swipe to the right, suddenly we are made for each other.” If Instagram is connected, you can write in the spirit: “After reading my description, you need to go to Instagram to exchange mutual likes;)”
Does Tinder dating bring results?
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2018-01-12
Humor. Girls appreciate wit and humor. This can and should be built into all the previous paragraphs. You can make a completely comic description, you can insert some kind of separate joke at the end. “I am looking for a girl for family dinners with my parents so that they stop thinking that I am gay)”
Some girls point height/weight/foreign languages. Again, you can emphasize your merits. If you're tall, point it out. If the growth is average and you want to indicate this, in order to avoid misunderstanding in a personal meeting, you can write about it in the original form like: “Height like Tom Hardy” (or some other famous person) - let them google it.) Regarding languages, you can write in the style: “Fluent English with Soviet accent)”
Position/company/school. One of the algorithms for selecting the proposed questionnaires in Tinder is based on the search for matches at the place of work / study. In order for us to be offered a greater number of pretty girls in the issue, in the “school” field we put some humanitarian university- pedagogical or linguistic. If you like foreign students, write “RUDN”)
Settings
At first glance, it may not seem very important, but the number / quality of selected girls will depend on these indicators as well.
Distance range
It doesn’t matter here, the main thing is not to set 2-3 km, simply because the number of options selected will be small. Even if the girl lives far away, you can meet in the center of your city after work / study, but it is preferable to set the radius no more than 30 km.
Age range
Here everyone has their own preferences. But good advice: put your really valid option according to the age range. If, for example, a girl is older than you, and at the same time looks good, you can have quite an interesting time, get new experience.
Pair search
About girls profiles
Not all girls sit on Tinder in order to get acquainted, therefore, if we are interested in a particular girl, we evaluate the profile and read the description. There are several types of non-core questionnaires.
PR page on Instagram
Usually, this is a set of likes and subscribers. Here you need to feel a certain edge. If a girl with a model appearance has 10k+ subscribers, on the page there is a photo of promotional products, etc., then she is either looking for a prince, or not in order to get acquainted. You can try to write anyway.
Just communication
They are mostly interested in how it is and what, they may have a young man and / or want to see how other guys evaluate them, what they write, etc.
The identification of such questionnaires will be described in detail in the Communication section. Or they just dump you)
Fan
These are those funny screenshots with inadequate descriptions or pictures/memes instead of photos.
Telegram channel: https://t.me/fucktinder . We laugh a little, scroll on.
fake
Almost always this is one photo of a girl without a description. Here, the FindFace service, which will be described later, will help. Plus, fakes are often posted first, so this is also additional feature. In the example on the screenshots, the real owner of the photos is in a relationship. Therefore, it is unlikely that he is on Tinder.
Surfing/swiping
The process of scrolling through profiles and liking profiles. Has some nuances.
Optimal time
This is lunch time in the area from 12 to 14, because the girls are also looking for partners in their free time, usually 2-3 couples are formed. Additional good time- Sunday evening from 21:00. By Monday morning, several pairs are also usually formed.
Effective approach
You don’t have to spend a lot of time looking at profiles, either yes or no, you don’t need to bargain and do yourself a favor, strive for the best.
It makes absolutely no sense to like profiles with one photo. When forming a couple, look at the girl’s profile again in more detail, if you don’t like it, then if you don’t write to her, you won’t be banned in the application.)
You can delete such pairs so as not to be confused with the girls you like, to whom you have not written yet.
Level Up
If there are no mutual swipes with girls that you really like, download your profile / yourself. This refers to style, hairstyle, clothes, etc. The idea is to create a cool image, just an image! It's okay that you will look a little different when you meet, believe me, in most cases the girl will not look 100% the same as in the photo, so in general this is not a hoax, but a tactical move to increase conversion.
Like or super like
Definitely super like! 80% of the correspondence shown in the screenshots are formed with girls who received super likes.
Here, as in life, you need to take the initiative yourself and choose those girls that you like, and not wait until someone likes you.
In the free version of the application, 1 super like is given per day, in Tinder gold 5 per day. There is a function to buy super likes.
The essence of the function is that the girl you superlike will immediately receive a notification about this, so the speed of pairing and switching to communication is higher than the expectation, until after your like, you get into the proposed profiles for the girl.
Paid Chips
Paid features provide some advantages in terms of speeding up the formation of pairs, but it is quite possible to do without them.
Tinder gold
Gives a set of additional features such as an unlimited number of likes, location selection, canceling the last swipe, etc. The main feature worth purchasing the gold version for is displaying the profiles of the girls who liked you.
Boost
Places your profile in the top suggested profiles in the selected region for 30 minutes.
A good result is obtained if you swipe a certain number of profiles to boost, then the chances that your profile will be offered to liked girls increase significantly.
This is much more efficient than swiping after a boost. The principle works again “you choose, not you”.
There is an option to swipe during the boost, this is something in between the two options above, it has an average efficiency.
Tinder Gold + Boost
The most efficient and fastest way to pair.
With the correct use of all the above tips for creating a profile and applying the boost at the optimal time, we get from 30 likes + 3-5 educated couples with the girls you liked before the boost was launched (approximate data for Moscow).
The highest conversion is usually obtained when the boost is launched on a Sunday evening.
Communication
Expectation/Reality
Before starting communication, remember the value of your time. It makes no sense to go to a meeting, trusting 3-4 profile photos in the application.
Be sure to look for and view Instagram / VK profiles with a large number of photos from different angles.
It is clear that in social networks, the photos are a little embellished and differ from real life, but in any case, this will save you from completely stupid cases.
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A great option when a girl has an Instagram connected. Do not forget to also look at the “friends tagged photos”, they show a more realistic picture.
If you really like a girl, and you don’t want to wait until a couple forms with her on Tinder, then go to her Instagram profile and if you have your own decent account:
a) Write to direct.
b) Like 2-3 photos, if there is reciprocity on her part (liked your photos), write in direct.
c) If there is no decent account on Instagram, but there is one on VK, and if the girl’s description contains her VK profile, we write in a personal message.
We are waiting for a reaction. Answer - good, do not answer, score, go to the next questionnaire.
VK + FindFace
FindFace is a service that allows you to find a VKontakte profile by photo, and it is not necessary that the photo you are searching for be in the profile. So:
a) We connect the service to our VK profile (this will not be displayed in the news with friends).
b) File one or more screenshots of photos in Tinder.
c) Upload these photos, press search.
d) We are looking for matches by name, city.
e) We study the profile photo.
By default, 20 search attempts are given without the possibility of going to the VK page. We connect a premium account for 150 rubles. per month, we get 70 search attempts and transitions to the pages found. In addition to studying photos, we get access to profile information: date of birth, city, university, interests, etc. This can help us in making assumptions when communicating. Naturally, it is not necessary to voice too obvious things so as not to frighten.
If a girl has few VK photos, there is no link to Inst in the information, we go to her friends, we look for someone who has Instagram in the information, we try to find the profile of the girl of interest in subscriptions or subscribers.
What to write (Openers)
Here, try to avoid obvious patterns, the girl can feel the use of blanks and merge.
Be sure to mention the name of the girl when writing, you can notice some things in her description, appearance or details in the photo.
It is also important to remember: we exclude any communication on YOU with a girl. Both of you are not that old
In the examples, almost everywhere there is a proposal to chat over tea / coffee in a cafe.
Firstly, because in autumn it is not always comfortable to walk because of the weather, and secondly, it voices what you will do when you meet, which forms additional confidence in you from the girl.
Direct
We write to the girl that you liked her + some kind of compliment.
In some cases, it goes well, because you have already liked each other, although naturally there are exceptions.
Context
You can catch on to the description, for example, if a girl is fond of something, make some remark on this topic and try to promote this direction.
In general, a kind of social communication is obtained.
Direct context
We act according to the compliment + suggestion scheme.
If there is no answer, you can joke in the style: “It looks like something is wrong with the application, messages are not being delivered” or “Then it was assumed that you would answer such and such”. If after that silence, we score, you can remove it from the pairs so that it does not an eyesore. You should also pay attention to the response time. If a girl answers you every 2 hours, and you in a minute, then in her eyes, you show an increased interest in her or you have too much free time. We answer either exactly the same amount, or a little longer.
Mistakes
All sorts of obvious things, but just in case. Avoiding texting like regular guys on Tinder (no offense)). Messages that girls are flooded with several times a day, and which, naturally, there is no desire to respond.
Hi, how are you? The template template that makes 99% of people sick when texting. Just "Hello" and waiting for a reaction is also not the best option for the first message.
Tell about yourself. Some information may be in the description, even if not, then a girl who values \u200b\u200bits time is unlikely to write her autobiography on request.
Why are you here? It was described in detail in the paragraph “About the profiles of girls”. In general, the goals may vary, but the main thing is acquaintance, so it makes no sense to ask about it.
Too much admiration.“You are so beautiful, I will give you flowers, I will take you to a restaurant”, etc. Such sayings immediately put you in the sponsors section or the friend zone, we are not here for that.
Number + meeting appointment
A perfectly reasonable question: Why not make an appointment right on Tinder?”Getting a phone number takes you and the girl to the next level of communication, more trusting, as if you are her acquaintance, and not some left guy from a dating site (positioning difference). Plus, you can call this number corny, about the advantages of calling over correspondence below.
We take a number
After talking a little on one of the schemes in the “Openers” section, we try to take a number, explaining why we need it, while the compliment call works well “ I'm not here often, I think you are too”, which has already been shown in the examples above.
a) We write that we want to meet, the number is needed for a substantive conversation on this topic.
b) We write that the number is needed to transfer communication to instant messengers like WhatsApp
If, after a request to throw off the number, the girl does not answer or sculpts some excuses, then she is not here to get to know each other and go on dates. We are not interested in such ones, so we score and write the next one. There are cases when a girl created a profile for the sake of interest and doesn’t enter the application anymore, we don’t dwell on these either. There are options when the girl herself asks for your number, in this case you can be persistent and write in the spirit: “I will write down your number myself, because I think that the initiative is always on the side of the man.”
Call/video call
We use it in the case when you really like the girl, because if she really looks good, she will probably be bombarded with messages even by those to whom she left her number. With a call we bring ourselves to even more high level in her eyes.
- Call. Classic. There is an excellent video on this topic from Anton Inozemtsev.
- Video call. Very cool theme, you need to look good and have a decent background in the background. Gives us an idea of what a girl looks like in real life, and communication that is close to real.
We call 1 time, call back in 2-4 hours, if there is no answer, we send SMS in a playful form like “You can’t get through directly”. If after that he does not answer, we score.
Messengers
Don't forget to have a decent photo of yourself in your profile.
- Video note. Preparation is similar to a video call. We write down our invitation to a date. Highly effective method, because the chance that someone has already done this for a girl is pretty small. It is likely that this will be a challenge for her and she will record her answer in video format.
- Audio note. We write down an invitation to a date in a low, calm voice, we pronounce the words clearly and legibly. It also gives an additional positive impression of you.
- Correspondence. If it is not possible to perform the previous options, we use messages in instant messengers or SMS. This is the least efficient way to set up a date, even in terms of more time.
Below, a video from Panfer on whether or not to date at all:
Conclusion
Summing up, I would like to talk about how dating applications can still help in the topic of seducing girls in real life. With the help of applications, the element of approach, which is present in a live acquaintance, is, as it were, abolished.
It is replaced by sending an email to a stranger. Therefore, if you can’t force yourself to come up on the street or in another place, but you want to communicate with girls, you can try to go on dates right away.
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